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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Fudgemudge, Sep 16, 2017.

  1. Sep 16, 2017 #1
    Fudgemudge

    Fudgemudge New Fapstronaut

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    Hello,
    I heard about nofap and I decided to try it since I suffer from PE. I am in a 3 year relationship and I've tried many different things and nothing helped. I'm now on my 10th day of no Porn and Masturbation but, I had sex ateast 3 times (with me orgasming at the end) ((or since PE at the begging I should say)) . And I was wondering if having actual sex and/or blowjobs and handjobs from my partner will affect my rebooting or neglect the benefits of nofap? I hope to hear from you soon fellow fapstronouts
     
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  2. Sep 16, 2017 #2
    Fudgemudge

    Fudgemudge New Fapstronaut

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    Bump.
     
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  3. Sep 16, 2017 #3
    Dayanew

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    From my understanding, anything that gives your body that dopamine rush will affect the benefits you could be receiving if you abstain entirely. Whether you are giving yourself an orgasm or obtaining one through another's administrations, you are still allowing your mind and body to receive the drug (dopamine) it is craving. As long as you give into that in any form and do not allow yourself to 'withdrawal' from it and allow your brain the time to rewire itself, you will not fully reap the benefits of it. Check out yourbrainonporn.com to better understand how and why PMO affects you and all the ways quitting can benefit your life. Also, check through the different forums and make sure to read some journals to really understand what all is involved with quitting and the side effects and benefits as each day or stage is passed.
     
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  4. Sep 16, 2017 #4
    Hopefulgirl

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    I disagree with the above. From my reading, if you have intercourse with your partner and DO NOT FANTASIZE and are 100% with your partner, you rewire your brain to real sex. I would stay away from bj and hj as it is easier to fantasize with those activities....
     
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  5. Sep 16, 2017 #5
    Fudgemudge

    Fudgemudge New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, both sound logic but I lean towards what @Sadgirl said. I've heard that PMO is sort of cheating the natural way of recieving this pleasure, as where from a partner it involves a lot of work and effort for one to get pleased. So the dopamine is justified since it's effort -> reward rather than few mouse clicks -> reward.

    I could be wrong so.thats why we discuss.

    P.S I'm not looking to change my life, I have a habit of PMO that I want to eradicate and I'm trying to figure out how to stop PE
     
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