Negatives vs Positives

Hey people,

Last night I had a wet dream, and it was really a massive challenge. I woke up just wanted
to go, but I pulled myself back and tried to forget about it and concentrate on anything other
than the desired women that my mind had created in my dream.

I catch a train into the city, and on a Friday night when I finish uni, it is so challenging not to look at all the women all dressed up for a long night of parties. I force myself on constantly looking away. I realized that something needs to change.

I spend most of my time obsessing about all the negatives of our addiction instead of looking forward into the future. Don't think about women in a sexual manner in which pornography has deemed as appropriate. Don't look at a women with a judgmental sexual appetite. Limit the amount of even touch myself (cleaning, itching, comfort) in case I drive myself crazy with increasing urges.

I really need a list of positive physical actions, thought processing, and general attitude towards women. If I keep obsessing about all the negatives, I'm just training my mind to think about them constantly during the day and night.

So, does anyone have a list of rules that allow them to get through a day? I'm not just talking, reading a book and limiting internet time. I'm talking about retraining your mind to perceive a day without reinforcing your addiction every hour.

Thanks! Sorry for the long post.

 

I'm not really in the position to have a girlfriend atm, which is why it makes it a difficult situation. I still have that desire, which is normal as you said. To fulfill that part of me would require me to start going down the same path I've detoured from.

With the list. I wasn't really talking routine as a day to day activities. I guess I haven't really explain myself correctly. I want to be mentally healthy with the way which I conduct my day and focus on things which are positive instead of obsessing with what I have problems with. I need to channel my thoughts into a constructive way in which to eliminate a negative reinforcement part of my day to day thinking about porn.

Instead of thinking "Yes, I survived another day by not watching or thinking about porn"
I want something like "Yes, I had a day which I really felt like I achieved something"
So less about surviving a day, and more about the victory had by enjoying my day. Does that make more sense?

Maybe I should just speak to a psychologist. Shrug...