hi everyone! I’m needing some advice from both PA and SO’s to help me understand my current situation with my husband. My husband is 110 days PM free (a massive achievement) and recently gone hard mode for the month of November (but open to karezza), however, he’s been flatlining since day 1. I have always had a higher libido than him so it’s been a struggle to hold myself back even during my pregnancy and postpartum. I’ve stopped initiating after DDay3. He knows I’m sexually frustrated and sees me suffering but he says he has no sexual desire (although he did say he wouldn’t say no for me giving him a BJ). He overthinks things and struggles to get over the mindset of initiating any form of sexual intimacy. He says he feels pressured to perform and that I need to be more patient. He doesn’t have PIED. Any advice out there? I know the PA has nothing to do with me but the lying and lack of intimacy on his part took a huge blow to my self esteem and, quite frankly, rocked our marriage plus the added stress of caring for a baby. I feel extremely undesirable (esp after pregnancy) and well I feel like I’m the chef, cleaning lady, gardener, DIY girl, and mother but not a lover. Help? Thanks.