need some advice

From what I’ve read from other posts, it is the porn induced fetish and you would most likely not do it IRL . ‘Normal’ sex and feelings gets replaced with more extreme, more risqué sex and feelings in your mind.

 

Everything changed for me when I got sober. For example, I thought I was bi, that wasn’t true. I have slept with guys before and only through sobriety can I see that I had no desire for men other than sexual release, adrenaline, and easy access compared to women.

Another example is domination. I liked to be a submissive slave. This was 100% related to my insecurity, low self esteem, and fear of really intimacy. This has also changed. I haven’t had many (if any) thoughts about being dominated.

Some fetishes such as teenage girls are still with me. (btw I call fetishes cuz it’s a category in porn, but irl were biological wired to find them attractive).

Sobriety is showing me what I like and what was porn induced but it only happens through abstinence form PMO for me.