1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Need some advice

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by oneperson, Dec 8, 2017.

  1. oneperson

    oneperson Fapstronaut

    33
    30
    18
    I dont know if this belongs here but I'm feeling just nothing no emotions at all. But thats not the point. I'm currently dating a girl while still in the reboot process. I've personally made it to 30 days but that was awhile ago.

    Had PIED couldn't have sex with this girl but also was a virgin so maybe it could of been performance anxiety. But when we finally could have sex my masturbation came back with it hard. I couldn't make it past 2-4 days for a long time.

    Also to go along with this I had terrible HOCD with my rebooting process. But now my brain is telling me i like stuff with dudes. When i think of another dude i get those tingles downstairs but that is not me at all. I like girls and thats it i never had liked guys at any point in my life.

    But the messed up part is that with girls this doesn't happen as much. Especially with my girlfriend. Everyone says sex is the most amazing thing. But to me its ok nothing special at all.

    I currently have a job at a walmart and theres nothing wrong there it gets my mind off these things.

    Currently im feeling nothing at all. Haven't had a good convo with my girl at school all day. No idea why.

    But i just need some questions answered here at the end hopefully i gave you guys enough info with the paragraphs above this.

    Questions, Will these gay thoughts and feelings go away?, Will I stop feeling numb at any point?, I'm scared to lose my girlfriend to cheating all the time will this go away?, Will sex become that amazing thing?,
     
  2. I never had HOCD but I used to get some dumb thoughts like "What's it like to be the girl?" but I didn't care too much. Anyway, those thoughts disappeared pretty quickly on NoFap.

    I don't know if you're experiencing a flatline, but maybe you are. I didn't really get a flatline, just mood swings.

    It's definitely worth sticking with NoFap. Sex will almost certainly get better, yes, but try not to build it up too much!
     
  3. canberry

    canberry Fapstronaut

    10
    3
    3
    Hey I just read your article here. Yeah, you can do sex if your girlfriend allow to do that, otherwise not. And for cheating I am not sure. But I would like to know how did you meet with her via any dating websites or social media? As far as I know most of the dating websites have fake pictures and profile. But some of them are really good and everything are legit there. Here are some of the websites which will help you to get real women who are seriously eager to make long-term relationship.

    https://www.elitesingles.com/
    https://www.beautifulpeople.com/
    https://www.cuteonly.com

    Those are reliable and have original profiles. If you are interested you can take a look at them. Thank you!
     
  4. STAR DUST

    STAR DUST Fapstronaut

    688
    775
    93
    It sounds like you have questions about sexuality, performing, cheating, and relapsing if I am not mistaken.

    For the sexuality there my be something there worth opening up to your girl about. You may be bi. If so there are options like polyamory, open relationship, and alternative relationship structures. It depends on your fantasies. Are you being penetrated or you doing the penetrating? If you are certain you are straight which is unclear, there is always pegging, and prostate massage. These are things you can do with a trusted female lover being a straight man.

    Performing sexually will certainly enhance with the cessation of pornography. KAREZZA is a worthy spot of interest and so is TANTRA. It may be worth a visit to a pro sex modern sexologist or TANTRA instructor. You would definitely want a liberal instructor or coach, because conservatives have the tendency to judge and be hyper judgmental. Even take your girl or do it at home. Authentic TANTRA does pro sex counseling sessions through internet via Skype and video chat.

    With cheating sex drive is human nature so you will always be attracted to other women or men etc. or both according to sexual preference. It is in our DNA. If you are in a committed monogamous relationship remain loyal, however you may want to explore alternative relationship structure or just break up with her because she doesn’t cut it for you and she just doesn’t satisfy you. Or you just want more which is when it’s best to be honest about an open relationship but be prepared for some kickback as It is just now gaining social acceptance, social awareness, international exposure, and social traction.

    With relapse avoid porn at all cost. Being with somebody or plural people who allow you to express yourself and desires cut down on the need for porn.

    Porn is a poison get rid of it! It’s a hole in the boat. It’s not that it’s bad morally, religiously, or politically, but instead personally, health wise, physically, and psychologically. It is so bad for you.

    Trust me.

    Sex transmutation and semen retention are both Game Changers that are arenas worthy of interest in regards to total transformation.

    You had questions and concerns about sexuality, performance,cheating, and relapse. I hope this helped.

    Good luck on your nofap journey.

    I will see you on the other side!
     
    Last edited: Jul 5, 2018
  5. STAR DUST

    STAR DUST Fapstronaut

    688
    775
    93
    that is one of my best responses
     

Share This Page