Need Advice

I am currently 22 days into a 90 day hard reset. I'm married and very attracted to my wife. Through out the first three weeks we have agreed that in order for me not to get too triggered during my reboot that we would abstain from deep kissing and heavy hugging. The thing is this all seems counter productive to me because after all is she not the one who I am supposed to be attracted too? I have noticed over the last week more things about my wife that I find attractive other than her sexuality. I told her the other day it was like me seeing her for the first time all over again, and that is a great feeling for both of us. We definitely have drawn closer through this journey which in turn causes me to want her even more. It seems kind of like a confusing rollercoaster ride that I can't get off of. Porn is the enemy here not my wife. Is that a correct assumption? Until I started this hard reset, I had unhealthy thoughts of watching my wife in action with other men and this turned me on and is what I would think about to reach orgasm. And these thoughts were still present up until about a week ago when I started noticing more non-sexual things that attracted me to my wife and now more thoughts of healthy sex are growing. However, I'm still battling the unhealthy thoughts of sex. I'm hoping that by continuing to do the hard reset that that part of me will disappear when my brain resets. In the meantime should I not be seeking out moments of non sexual pleasure with my wife such as heavy hugging, deep kissing, snuggling in bed, and just being physically close as opposed to how we've approached it up until now? Or should I just continue with light physical contact since I'm still battling some unhealthy thoughts of sex? Any advice is welcomed.