Need advice on rebooting while married

So I've posted something like this before.Ill try to keep it short.I can honesty say after many attempts and failures.I can see myself being done with pmo'ing.Thers one problem though.I am married.In trying to reboot can feel and have begun to see the difference in my confidence and other things.But inevitably my wife needs to have her sexual needs met and understandably so.Ive had different advice and points of view.I can go a 2 or 3 weeks without any release..But then my wife is well ready by then.She knows of my problem past with all this.And she's quite tired of hearing about it.Is me and her having sex ruining my reboot?

 

Yea,I guess.Im 41,been on the pmo kick since around 18.Beem married 16 years.Not the greatest marriage by far.But I've recently,as in last year come upon this website.Seeing so many others confess the same affects caught my attention.Anyway since finding out why I was feeling how I was feeling.Ive been going at it to stop.Porn I can stop it's the having sex because I'm married that i can't stop because obviously my Wife wants her expected sexual desires appeased.As expected.Ive explained to her the situation and benefits of trying to stop.Tried a few times a few years back she was cool with it but I slipped up while I was supposed to stop for a month.Anyway case and point,I am confident I can lick this problem.But the expected sex is a roadblock.Last night she wanted it and I'll admit after going without for a couple weeks I was ok with not but when we started fooling around and you start rubbing places of course I got turned on.Sorry hope that's not to explicit.Anyway she actually got bothered cause the kids were in the next room so it kind of killed the mood and neither one of us o'ed..But that chaser effect kicked in and I've been edging most of this day.So that's the deal.I don't know what to tell her or do.Im gonna have to have sex within a month every month or sooner.Not that I'm complaining but you know what I mean.Not good for rebooting I'm assuming.

 

Ok first off Carbon Icon,I don't appreciate your condescending tone! And it's not an excuse me and my wife have gotten in arguments over this.Mainly cause I'm trying to abstain totally from any arousal and she doesn't see the point in it.And being vague? What the fuck do you want to know? Every little intimate detail of my sex life? No porn wasn't involved,I'd say I was on about a two and a half week streak.An excuse? Believe me if I wanted to I could just go whack off in the bathroom anytime.Or have sex to.Are you a sex therapist? Next time you message me change your fucking attitude or don't text me.You don't know me so chill on the Dr.Phil bullshit.You wanna text some advice I'll gladly take it.But not with that bs.

 

I agree I do have an anger problem.But you don't know me near Well enough that to make some assumption that Oh you hit a nerve because you might be getting close to the truth? Once again you don't know near enough about me to make that assumption.You sound like one of those judgemental people that looks to point the finger at someone and quickly make a judgement call.You hit a nerve because of how much I want to be rid of this and it's very difficult to do while being married BEING that a very important part of marriage is sexual intimacy.When I'm doing good inevitably I will have to take care of my wife's needs.Its not an excuse it's just what happens in marriage.Then to say in your last reply "Oh you must have hit a nerve cause your close to the truth".Once again you don't know me or my situation.I admit I did fire off and I do have an anger problem you are correct in that.Sorry for the strong comeback.I can see me
Being rid of this.But it's difficult to completely stop all release because of marriage obligations is what I'm saying.Is that specific enough?