Need a hug or a shoulder to cry on?

I can relate. Try going pmo free for 7 days then go to youtube and type "nofap 7 days"

 

cry into my imaginary shoulder ;,(

 

I can definitely relate. I need a hug and a friend. I am trying to open up and not guard myself so much. A lot of my loneliness comes from me subconsciously being distant while pretending to be close if that makes any sense. Like I'll hug you and everything but never tell you how I truly feel. I could be suicidal that day but pretend like my whole life is perfect as a defense mechanism.

 

Hey,I want to talk to you and I would like to be your friend,
I'm going through bad phase and I don't have anybody to share it... It's like whenever I get close to a person... They leave me.. and I miss them too much... I'm not a very open person but I really want to cry on someone's lap.. and open up about inner me,,I really need a friend rn

 

I can relate so much to this I don’t tell people how I really feel and I pretend to have a perfect life but I’m so lonely and I need someone to hear me out and understand my pain :’(

 

I am in if you are in Toronto

 

Just over 3 weeks into no P&M myself and early on and many times before I have gotten very emotional. Times I felt like a big ball of mush. I can feel when a good cry is needed and sometimes you just have let outofor release. I carry at lot of it with me and that's not healthy either. I'm not ashamed to cry, it's better than the alternative.

 

Very moving post, and I agree. I myself have been through so much, and I’m sure we all have. But as tough as these experiences make, we still need a little support in our lives because we’re human. And that’s okay

 

You seems a very nice person, it is cool seem that they exist ^^

 

Yeah I need hugs more often than I let on. Normally I come across as a person that doesn't like to be touched be it's really the opposite and can say it's truly been a LONG time since I've had a shoulder to cry on, even if it would be across the internet.

 

i used to be suicidal life seemed awful then I met someone and showed the real me now I'm in torture because I'm suffering from being myself therapy doesnt help I wish I had a hug cause I feel so low right now it hurts y'all

 

I feel the same but now I have realized that no shoulder can solve my problem the only thing i can do to a person is make look like a shit if they are with me because of my bad mood and. So now I just try to be happy go out and don't give a damm about other this make's me happy but sometimes I also get anxious and depressive with my freinds but still I try to keep calm remember that its my brain fooling there's nothing like that Its hard but it better to be around people rather than sitting in your room alone and self-pitting on your self. Actually its a good thing happening to me because now I know the true faces of people at beggining I was sad about there reaction but now I feel good atleast I have nothing to hide and the true people who really care about me are with me.

So the moral is if you ask for a shoulder you will be dependent on that person everytime if you do good things for yourself like staying fit mentally and physically, doing your job properly, and following passion or hobby, I don't think you will require anybodys shoulder so face all the consequence don't feel sad about yourself because all this shit we are into is because of ourself so just accept everthing (its not easy) but with we will learn be much more awesome person in future atleast this is what keeps me going.

 

Deep down I wish someone would just hold me and tell me everything will be okay. But unfortunately that isn't happening. I have to swallow the harsh reality of life and look for a job to make money and move out of my hometown. I hate it here and hate being seen by anyone I know from my past. I want to disappear so bad.

 

I know this feeling but the fact is you can't run from the truth just accept your mistake try to move on ( its not easy but you will heal with time) I had to face people during my sisters marriage many people from my family and outside troed to break me and I was broke but that didn't stop me from doing my normal job to be true I recovered from my problem but the that it has done to my image is worst that part is hard but somewhere inside I can hear the sound be patient all will be gone and healed with time and this drives me more to achieve my goals.
So you can't hide or run you have to face it for that you also have to be prepared mentally brother . If you hide sooner or later you will have to face the consequece so just face it ( not easy i also fell the same but atleast I try to do my job sincerely )

 

This is where friends can really come in handy. Even if you don't have Significant other, friends can really help to fill the void.

I've often heard people say that in order for people to see you as interesting you need to comfortable in your own skin and happy with spending time on your own and with yourself. I get the feeling that this is very true. It's hard to understand sometimes just how much people can read about you sub consciously just at a glance. Try spending some me time out and about. Take yourself out for lunch dates or movies on your own. Go out for strolls in your nearby park.

Be yourself and don't be too hard on you. Worst comes to worst there are always cats!

 

Good luck. I got your back. It is lonely and depressing sometimes but be strong I got your back

 

Recently came out of self therapy on dealing with lonliness and other unpleasant emotions on my no PMO journey, to summarize my lesson all comes down to the programming that a man is supposed to be strong and not show his emotion which on the surface may seem true but on the inner level is a bunch of bs. A man is supposed to comfront his emotions head on and feel them very deep or better increase the intensity of that emotion within his being and body and stay with the emotion until the emotion is fully processed in his being or body which at the end brings relief, confidence, self awareness and mental clarity.
To be able to fully process your emotions you will need to identify the reason why you are feeling such an emotion and find a "safe zone" both physical and mental where you will not be disturbed so that you can process the emotion.
After processing my emotion of loneliness the biggest awareness that came to me was that i have been running away from my self and deeper emotions through the use of porn, masturbation, womanising (becoming pick-up artist) and seeking approval from society, i was also becoming addicted to the attention i get from women because am on nofap which i did not necessarily need until i started feeling lonely even after all the attention i get from women.
I feel am now coming from an inner space of freedom, confidence and authenticity where i know i have a place to go within me to heal myself when the the outer world does not comform to my perception on how it is supposed to act and react to me.
The journey of nofap has brought alot of shift within me at a level i never immagined. i feel am now a much better person to my self, the society and especially to my future wife.

 

Me too but I want to feel a strong man’s are holding me saying it’s OK. So that’s the gist of my porn use. I don’t always want to be the strong husband, father, man.
The thing is the only strong man’s arms that will rescue me I resist failing into, those belong to Christ.