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My transgender girlfriend

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by TryHarder, Sep 10, 2018.

  1. TryHarder

    TryHarder Fapstronaut

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    Hey, I'd like opinions on some points but mostly wants to share this

    My girlfriend is a transgender women (9 month HRT if some of you wants to know), 2 days ago I told her I was doing the NoFap Reboot and it went well, she thinks it's cool to do it if I think I need to and if it can be good for me. She seems happy about it.

    Although, before reboot, sometimes I watched nudes on Reddit only to make some points and compare her body with others to show her that there is changes, with no porn or excitation in mind.
    I still do it sometime with her, mostly on transgender nudes, but I don't count it as relapsing, because I learned to make the difference (before reboot) between my brain telling me "your girlfriends changed, you should check out with her" and my brain telling me "go watch porn, it's for your girlfriend and all, you know, maybe you should fap too right?".

    Moreover, I think I succeed more and more into not converting my urges into sex needs, because it's really not the same as a real "I want you now".

    Even if she hasn't had sexual reassignment for now, which means she needs to do an enema if we want to do things, and she's not always in the mood for it because it's not the funniest part obviously, I found myself, even if I'm only 6 days, being more into what she felt when she do not wants sex before what I want, I find it more healthy and am happy about it.

    Currently, I come a bit fast when we have intercourse, but it happened before, it don't prevent me to please here, I think it's just a phase, might be due to the reboot.
    I do have less hypersensitivity though which is a good point

    I think that's all, she's a big part of my motivation in rebooting, I love her and I'm glad that rebooting changes step by step the way I act with her, in good almost as much as I like to see her changes in her transition.
     
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  2. Sounds like you two have a great, understanding relationship. Being intimate really is about so much more than sex and it seems as though you two are intimate in ways that are important.

    Regarding you cumming quickly: You may want to consider spending (much) more time pleasuring her in other ways before getting to whatever is getting you off. If you can only last a couple of minutes, then where does that leave her? Is she satisfied, or does she wish she had more? In the book I am reading, the author talks about pleasuring a woman for 20 minutes before even entering her. It takes that long for women to really get ready for vaginal intercourse. But everyone's experience is obviously different. Just my two cents.

    Good luck and peace to you today.
    -BD
     
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  3. TryHarder

    TryHarder Fapstronaut

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    Actually I do take time to pleasure her very much with my fingers, and apparently I'm really good with them, which gives her pleasure and orgasms, which turns me really exited and might be why I come so fast, I'll try less fingering, we'll see were it goes
     

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