My take on “You’ll develop superpowers with women”…

So far I have made it to Day 49, then 5, then 2, then 8, currently on Day 34 (and counting!!!) I’m still in the process of getting rid of my PMO addiction. I’ve been making some good PMO-free streaks between my relapses, but I still have a lot of work to do. In the same time, it isn’t to say that there hasn’t been any noticeable benefits!

One of the things that helped me keep going this long (longer than I ever thought I could) was the “Success Stories” forum, thanks guys! Anyways, one of the most common themes among the “Success Stories” was ““You’ll develop superpowers with women.” Before really getting into my PMO-free streaks, I thought “yeah right… too good to be true… I'm not that great with women...” Yes, I thought pretty negatively about myself for the longest time. I urge all of you to work on getting ride of these negative thoughts, it doesn't help us in any way. I had many many reasons to want to quit, but I did discover a truth about “developing superpowers with women” as it’s called here.

Well here I am weeks later with PMO-free streak, relapse, PMO-free streak, relapse, PMO-free streak (and counting)… I can tell you a thing or two about “developing superpowers with women”. From my experience, yes (and no)! It doesn’t literally mean that you will become a ladies man overnight. It doesn’t mean there will be a line of ladies lining up for you. You still have work to do, from quitting PMO, and working up the courage with women. Since seriously attempting to quit, I definitely gotten better with women, but I think the real deal is that I (and many of you) actually had these skills with women all along. It is the PMO addiction that was holding me back from my potential with women. Let’s all kick PMO to the curb to unlock our full potential with women!

A little backstory: I am a virgin, and I am waiting for the right time. Sure I had some hookup opportunities in college, but I knew that those moments weren’t the right ones… I care that it is special, and I am looking for that one good girlfriend despite being surrounded in this culture of random hookups. I have been depressed about never finding a good gf, which is one of one of the many causes of my PMO addiction. I used PMO as a substitute… BTW is it a VERY horrible substitute!!! I definitely tricked my mind into thinking I was getting my “fix” with women, this is all for a different post…

I, of course, always notice nice looking ladies. However, before I seriously attempted to quit PMO, I never once got the courage to just say hello. Instead I would just look at them and admire them from afar. If our eyes met, I would turn my head away instantly. Let me explain to you what changed after I first seriously attempting to quit PMO a few months ago. Again, I have relapsed here and there, but there are noticeable benefits and here is one of them!

On my first attempt to go PMO-free, the first few days without PMO were brutal. I was so tempted to give up, just get back online and you know… A week passed, and I tried to fill my new free-time with other things. I worked out and swam like crazy. I can now do 4-5 pullups in one set, and I am doing a minimum of 100 pushups a day, how about that?!! I found that I just have so much energy now that I was no longer starting every single morning (and finishing every late night off) with PMO. PMO would drain my energy and my workouts later in the day were like mehhhh as a result... It's a great feeling to redirect this surplus of energy somewhere else. I clearly feel better physically and mentally. I also feel about my body and the shape I'm in for once. In addition, when working out, I now admire how much weight a lady is squatting/benching/lifting, how many reps/sit-ups/push-ups/etc, how well she swims, instead of thinking other kinds of dirty thoughts… You don’t realize these things until after you try to get rid of PMO from your life. It will change many things you go about in your day, especially notice women!

During my PMO-binge, I’ve but never once had I got the courage to talk to women I never met before. All I had to do was say something, say anything… I still don’t understand why I never did, but looking back and writing this, I can definitely say that PMO was a huge culprit.

Among the changes with how I acted around women was that when my eyes met the eyes of a lady, I would no longer turn my head away instantly. I would now give a friendly smile, maybe say a little something, and sometimes it turned into a conversation. And sometimes it doesn’t turn to a conversation, but that’s okay! Just move on and try, try, try again! =]

Post-attempting to quit PMO, I found myself getting a little better at striking up conversations with them! Here’s one of the many stories. This one lady was so amazing and going all-out with her swim workouts. She was in a lane next to me. I was just simply compelled to meet her. I had my own swim workout routine I was doing. At one point when we were both resting, sipping water, between our workout sets, I started a conversation. What started out as a simple “How’s it going?” quickly went to me praising her for clearly being so dedicated with her swim workouts. She clearly used to be on a team like me. She said she was so out of shape, hahaha I didn’t see it… which is when I complimented her some more and then teased her for “trying to make the rest of us look bad with her amazing swim workouts”? ;] I did offer to combine my workout with hers, which we did. After an amazing workout, we went to the hot-tub and continued talking for a long time. If this was a few months ago, I would have found her rather intimidating, “too good looking for me”, etc. So many possibilities to come up with such as “How are you?”, comment about the place we're both at, praising her workout dedication, etc... I never thought about how easy it really is. Again, it is a little work involved, but seriously, it’s no pressure! It's hard to look back and on why did I always keep eyes on my sneakers all these years...

This was one of many moments I had striking up a conversation with women since post-attempting to quit PMO. While I am not necessarily aiming at the moment to get their phone numbers upon the first meeting (one day I will workup that courage), nor inviting them out for dinner/drinks the same day, nor getting on one knee… I’m just making small-talk (something I previously never did) and enjoying it. I know as I continue to improve (I mean unlock my full potential) with women, I will be able to go further than just small-talk. It certainly does feel good knowing that I do have what it takes to strike up a conversation with women. If you want to call them “superpowers”, then it is true what they are saying in the “Success Stories” here. It will take a different time-frame for everyone, don’t worry! Be patient! Be willing to do the work, from quitting PMO, and then working up the courage to say "hello"! =] But yes, I can confirm that quitting PMO will make you more confident around women in the long run. And remember, it’s not so much about “getting better” with women, than it is about unlocking the full potential (you never knew about) that you had all along with women.

I saw a post here that mentioned how loneliness is the path to PMO. I definitely can say that PMO is also the path to loneliness. But guess what, the opposite is true! Quitting PMO can in fact help you "develop super powers with women", if yo uwant to call it that. I cannot stress how important it is to believe in this and yourself to make it happen!

When I binged on PMO, it was basically the equivalent of cheating myself to feel like I got my “fix” with a lady. Since trying to quit, I felt a new and real void. Nowadays when I see a nice lady, I now feel the urge to just go say hello and talk to her! I’m also not afraid of making eye-contact as much anymore. This thing called PMO-addiction will just hold you back. Let’s get rid of it to unlock our true and full potential with everything in life, including our skill (aka "superpowers") with women!

 

I'm still working on building up a strong and consistent confidence. One day at a time! hope everyone who reads my original post can realize their true potential and build it up too!

 

It’s been 39 days since my last pmo. My confidence with women has been boosted greatly, I friggin love it! People, if you can stay off of pmo and do the work, I can assure that you too can become really successful with women!

Went to a club last night with a group. Was a little timid at first, just had a beer and talked with some people. I did wanna dance for sure! Eventually I just let the music take control and I started dancing around. I always felt that no one needs to be a great dancer, but if they’re confident, it’s basically the same friggin thing! Btw, I don’t think I’m any great at dancing, but I found that the ladies love dancing with me regardless. Work on that confidence my friends!

I was pretty much on my way on the dancefloor. I did dance with a group of girls for a lil while. Later I attempted to strike up a conversation with another girl, but she immediately got hostile, giving one word answers, glaring at me… I was kinda confused at first, but then I thought “You know what? It doesn’t matter…” And just like that, I was the one who walked away from her… I eventually made eye-contact with a pretty blonde who moved in on me, we did a lil bump n’ grind haha, something that hasn’t happened since a few times in college…

The last two hours I did make my way over to a lady who was a lil older than me, thought I'd give it a try. She was kinda shy, seemed to be dragged out by her friends. I just said “hello” and just like that they tried to get her to dance with me. We pretty stuck together for the remaining two hours. Guys even tried to steal her from me, but she wouldn't leave me! I didn’t come with the intention of getting numbers, etc. I just wanted to dance and have a great time, which I did. I did ask to swap numbers with her at the end, she didn’t want to but she did give me a hug and thanked me for an amazing time on the dancefloor. Not sure what that deal was, but I don’t care… at least she definitely liked me enough to stick with me on the dancefloor for so long! Hence not getting her number didn’t bother me, but I was glad I asked all the same! Just gonna keep staying off pmo, and keep working. I just know that eventually something will work out big time!

For those like me who’ve been outta the game too long, you will have even more success if you keep at it. The night won’t always go the way you want it to, but you can still make the best of it! And eventually, you will really start to have some real success. I am starting to believe in myself a lot more. You all should too! =]

Btw, months ago, I probably would have just felt sorry for myself the rest of the night after the encounter with the mean girl… and then just return home to pmo. I’m so glad I gained the nerve to just move on and make it a great night!

Here’s to “developing superpowers with women”!!

 

I hear that! Never been the clubbing type of guy, but I will do it on occasion. But seriously, no pressure, no high expectations, do (some) work, don't take it seriously, and you can have fun! =]

 

Thank you for your response! =] It's interesting to see a female's perspective on this, but your words are so familiar to my situation.

I am guilty of comparing myself to others, wishing I looked more like (insert name of "hot" celeb here). It got to a point where I thought of myself a "2", and obviously it didn't help. I sought out love/relationship/dating advice from all the wrong places. A "player" in particular told me these cheesy pickup lines, some were quite nasty... that's just not me at all. I don't do pickup lines, especially if I immediately open up by talking really dirty. A good advice from a friend was if you use some stupid pickup line and you're normally not some guy who does that, you will go off the cliff because of the followups, etc. Anyways, I'd would much rather have a real conversation. It's been heavily misconstrued that to be confident equals being "that hot and cocky guy women love". I learned that it was easier to be myself. For starters, I had to appreciate who I am. I had to workup my confidence and do my thing. I should no longer be afraid to say hello. There was a time I would much rather fight the Hulk (not even joking) than approach a lady who I felt was "too good for me". Probably resulted in the "one who got away" (possibly many times) as a result. In addition, the PMO did mess with my head, quitting it has helped (see original post on this thread).

I have developed a lot of confidence and learned a lot about my strengths, especially since starting the NF challenge. I'm not afraid to say "hello!" I'm able to keep a conversation going for a long time, and woah, I am actually funny!

My other methods included working out like crazy (swimming, rock-climbing, lifting, aiming for 100 daily pushups). Exercise will be quite the confidence booster! I suggest you seriously get into that, and it's a much greater addiction to have!

So stop comparing yourself with others. Especially to some "hot" celebrity, that celebrity's life is NOT yours. Stop trying to act like others, cause it is much more difficult to do that. Be yourself, but in the same time strengthen your best qualities! Do work up on being confident, because that will help you go a long way. That is the way you will "develop superpowers", aka unlocking your full and true potential!

Lastly, don't be afraid to say "hello". If you do want to meet a guy, I can assure you he won't mind if you do just that. Hint hint, we men do wish women would approach us too =]

Thanks again for your post! Check in anytime, and always write if there is something you want to talk about. A lot of good people here! =]

 

I relapsed 3 times in the last 48 hours, but I am keeping my chin up. I know all that work and improvements didn't just go down the drain like that. Okay, there definitely will be a few setbacks, and definitely the chaser effect... but the streaks did result in amazing improvements. I will find a way to win this battle once and for all! Have a great week and do continue to check in! =]

 

Went to a club last night. Danced with a lot of gorgeous ladies. They apparently thought I was a great dance.

Well, despite the multiple relapses this week, I did make Friday night awesome. I went to a club, and I danced with a lot of gorgeous ladies. I did make small-talk with some. Eventually, when getting drinks, I was introduced to this one lady. She and I started talking a lot, and it stayed that way until the end of the night. I did buy her a drink, and dyed it green for St. Paddy's Day =] She was a total sweetheart. Towards the end of the night, I told her that I would love to see her again. I got her number. Never know where things can lead.

 

I relapsed 3 times last week (well technically 4 times total, the first day I relapsed twice in 1hr). While it was a disappointment, I do want to urge everyone to NOT let those relapses discourage you in anyway. Sure my erections will be a lil weaker for the near future, but I know I can get them back! Twice I have made it over 40 days, and I racked up a lot of benefits, especially unlocking my true potential with women. I definitely didn't lose the confidence I gained with women. Anyways, sure that was a rough week, but I did make the best of it at the end. So continue to make great PMO-free streaks! Make mistakes, learn from them, rack up some more PMO-free streaks, and enjoy the benefits!

I will continue to post followups here. I NEVER EVER thought I would be writing a post like this (where I am talking about how much better I got with women), yet here I am! I didn't think I had it in me, but I clearly do! So do the work, stomp PMO to the curb, bring up your confidence,
go out, and do your thing. Meet women in a way that works best for you! =]