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My Quest to Quit Masterbation & Porn Completely

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Iceberg, Oct 12, 2018.

What was your best strategy to quit Masterbation & Porn

  1. set a time to do it then slowly decrease

    5 vote(s)
    16.1%
  2. Not being alone

    11 vote(s)
    35.5%
  3. Pure willpower e.g. Just not doing it

    11 vote(s)
    35.5%
  4. Start new hobbies

    14 vote(s)
    45.2%
  5. Replace it with a new habit

    15 vote(s)
    48.4%
  6. engage into sports

    9 vote(s)
    29.0%
  7. Sleep early

    8 vote(s)
    25.8%
  8. Turning to spirituality

    14 vote(s)
    45.2%
  9. speak to your mind

    4 vote(s)
    12.9%
  10. keep your hands busy e.g. away from your self/regions

    11 vote(s)
    35.5%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. Iceberg

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    I am beginning my quest to quit Masturbation and Pornography completely.

    The single biggest reason is that I will save time and be able to use that time to live the life I want to live instead of being a slave to my lower self.

    I found out about this site today and its great to see like minded people that are trying/have quit Fap.

    I commit to writing here everyday.

    The quest to NoFap begins.
     
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  2. seanc

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    God speed my friend!
     
  3. Iceberg

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    Day 1: SUCCESS

    Been a great day.
    Obviously its easy to Nofap for one day so the next few days and week is going to be the real challenge.
    I exercised, studied/worked well, ate well and feel great.
    I was also around people the whole day which helped.

    I was thinking about some triggers to Fap and below they are stated, I hope recognising them helps myself and others:

    1) Stress
    2) When I am down/depressed
    3) When I am annoyed with someone
    4) When I overeat
    5) Shower?
    6) See explicit images/video
    7) Certain types of music
    8) Being alone/lonely/in room while studying/relaxing can lead to Fap and Porn.

    Ways to combat the above triggers:

    1) Take a five-ten minute walk + Rehydrate + Breathing exercises/mindfulness
    2) Same as above. Perhaps watch a great video e.g. 'faith restored in humanity', view a positive uplifting picture, read some inspiring quotes/pages from books.
    3) Same as above two. Perhaps think in third person. I will not take things personally and remove my mind from the situation.
    4) Be mindful of how much I eat, what I eat and when I eat. If there is too much food I will now store some in the fridge for another time. I will also avoid food that could lead to FAP e.g. cake.
    5) Be mindful. Be careful when washing while touching self. Wash self perhaps while being dryish if that makes sense.
    6) Add blockers on PCs. same as below.
    7) Avoid them. Be more mindful and instead listen only to music that helps my self-discipline.
    8) Go for 5-10 minute walk. Go straight to a place where there is people. Mindfulness. I still need to think this one out and have a better strategy/protocol. I will try and answer this tomorrow hopefully. If anyone has any ideas please let me know.

    8) Suggestions I have received from others
    To prevent from using porn when alone, I just try to watch something online that interests me, or on tv. Or even work out if possible.

    Also visualizing life with a girlfriend and being happy and free from porn and masturbation deterrs me from making a bad choice m.


    I am so happy due to NoFap today. It would be a dream come true if I looked back 365 days from now and knew I did not break this NoFap cycle. I know my life would be much greater and I would achieve sooo much more. That's why I must not break the chain and tomorrow I WILL be back and it will be another day of SUCCESS.

    Stay Strong,

    Iceberg
     
    Last edited: Oct 13, 2018
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  4. Iceberg

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    Day 2: SUCCESS

    Been a semi rough day due to not being able to sleep for some strange reason. I think I should stay away from electronic devices within an hour before bed and perhaps read with a light drink or something.

    Again, going two days without PMO is not particularly hard. I know the real challenge will begin tomorrow. I was semi-tempted today but using the advise I got from others helped me not. I need to go without PMO for a week. then I know I am making real progress.

    Also, can someone please answer the question if: Does it get easier the longer you have not PMO'ed or is it always hard to some extent?


    Anyway, not much more to stay. I will be back here tomorrow with a success.
    and to answer number eight from my previous post 8) Take a break, walk for 10 minutes, light snack, drink some water...… visualise myself achieving my goals and being happy with my future girl....


    Stay Strong,
    Iceberg
     
  5. vitatertot

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    It's really hard for the first few weeks. Normally day 1-2 is easy, 3 is hard, and then around day 7 is hard. 7-14 is hard-ish, and if you go 2-3 weeks with not just using willpower it gets easier. You stop craving it and you just have to set boundaries. Remember the HALT system: Hungry, angry, lonely, and Tired. These are huge relapse areas. If you notice yourself in one of these, do something to change it or don't use electronics. Take a nap, whatever. Put up a filter on every device, permanently get rid of all porn. Set up a daily accountability partner. Write down every single reason you want to quit, and all the things Porn has done for you (pos and negative) You'll find that the negative outweighs the positive. Go over your values and your goals every morning and every night. Go to bed by 11 PM every day. Wake up by 7. Avoid caffeine late at night. Research porn and regular addictions. Do it when you're in a solid mindset. Buy and read the book breaking the cycle on sex addiction. Do all the exercises in there.
    This is a fight you don't win with willpower. You decide you want to quit (that's not what makes you quit) AND THEN YOU TAKE THE STEPS TO MAKE SURE IT HAPPENS. Take up a regular EVERY DAY workout regimen. I like workouts 3/4 days a week and walking/running the other days. Eat healthy, pick up a diet. Avoid all sugar and external artificial dopamine stimulators. You have to find out WHY you are addicted (everyone has a reason) and address it, then go on the road to recovery.
     
  6. Meditation Monk

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    This is what I am working on myself as well. Strength willing.
     
  7. Excellent self analysis. You have the tools to stop. Now you just need to develop the discipline.

    One thing I have found is that I need to pick one thing to really focus on. For me it is NO peeking at any images.
     
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  8. Meditation Monk

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    Working towards my goals and keeping my mind "busy" and not letting the flies get in is the medicine for me. As long as I keep myself preoccupied then I will not give in to my temptation.
     
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  9. INeedHelp123

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    This is probably the best advices I have read, thank you!
     
  10. Iceberg

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    Thank you for the valuable insight.
    I hope to follow up on it.
     
  11. Iceberg

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    Day 3: SUCCESS

    Been a great day, again. Easier than I thought. I think having an accountability partner and using this thread to post my results really helps. Knowing that I have to post my results on this thread everyday I think is a big part of having much better days.
    All my other areas of life have been great as well such as exercise and study.

    Question: 'has anyone used/read the book: "breaking the cycle on sex addiction"? if so how did you find it? was it useful? are the exercises useful? what do they consist of?

    Also, Question: "Being alone/lonely/in room while studying/relaxing can lead to Fap and Porn", what is your best advise to resolve this trigger/problem?

    Stay Strong,
    Iceberg
     
  12. vitatertot

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    I bought the book online. It's fine, just stick it on a laptop or somethin and read it in a public space.
    As for being alone, if you're studying, do it in the library. Also, be careful that you distinguish between "relax time" and "lazy time". When I'm on top of things, I have a dedicated 2-3 hours in the morning that I use to de-stress from the day before, I read my bible, do devos, drink some tea, journal, and work on at least 1 book I'm tryna read through. I'll do chores, just have chill time to myself. That's relax time. Lazy time is sittin in your room playin videogames for 2-3 hours. Unless you've been super-productive that day, don't take time to play videogames. Ideally, relaxing doesn't involve electronics. And like I said, as for studying, do it at the library. The book breaking the Cycle was recommended to me by J.K. Emezi, probably one of the best porn recovery coaches alive. Quality stuff. You have to actually do it though. It's worth like the 10 bucks to buy it online. If I find myself alone in my room and I feel the same "neediness" or "endless scrolling" feeling coming on, or any urge at all, electronics are off and you're out of the room. period. Don't make it something you can argue with yourself about. Good luck bro
     
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  13. Iceberg

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    Day 4: SUCCESS

    Again, today has been easier than what I thought. I will attribute this to: 1) not being lonely, 2) using this thread as accountability, 3) APs, 4) reading other threads and 5) Self-determination

    Some personal/self-development questions I am trying to answer are:
    1) What to do when depressed/sad?
    2) What to do when stressed?

    I noticed that the two questions above are big relapse areas.

    Stay Strong,
    Iceberg
     
  14. vitatertot

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    If you noticed yourself starting to get depressed/sad, do a couple of things: My go-to is to go for a run or work out. A study found in every case that a 30-40 minute brisk walk 3 times a week was better at curing depression than any anti-depressant pill. When you're sedentary you get depressed. I like to avoid electronics, hang out with friends. I'll also make myself a cup of tea/coffee and read a good book. Turn on a record or somethin. Go outside. Sunlight helps like you wouldn't believe. Just find SOMETHING to do to make yourself feel accomplished. When you're stressed, avoid caffeine, it'll put your body under more stress. I've found that high amounts of caffeine for days/weeks on end literally puts my stress through the roof (I don't get stressed normally). High intensity high-rep exercises: Do some pushups till you burnout, crunches, burpees you know whatever. Take a quick 15 minute nap, just do something. Same thing though, go outside, for a walk. Meditation is good, if you can get into mindfulness meditation (not been doing it as much as I'd like recently, but ya know, life happens.) Find something that you enjoy that's PRODUCTIVE (not videogames or tv), and use it as downtime. Setting goals for yourself, tangibly and going after them with everything you have every month: The month before school started my goal was to do 100 pushups, I could only do 50 when I started and I hit it by the end of the month). Make it a goal to finish a book a week, something. When you accomplish it it makes you feel great. My stress reliever is cleaning. When my room is spotless and put together I feel put together. Don't spend more than an hour or two alone if possible. Are you in college ATM? High-school? Working or married? Just wondering, where you are in life makes a huge factor in how to spend your time.
     
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    uni
     
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    Day 5: SUCCESS

    Crazy day. Again, I could not sleep. I pulled off an all nighter but hoping to go bed extra earlier today and reset my routine.
    In terms of day to day life, I really need to be more productive and get more done e.g. study. since I have exams soon. Advise on this would be helpful?

    Anyways, if anyone has any questions themselves, please let me know and I will try and give you a helpful reply.

    Stay Strong,
    Iceberg
     
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  17. vitatertot

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    In the hours inbetween random stuff (I know we all have 1-2 hours inbetween classes or whatever that we just waste), make sure you make a point to spend it in the library. Do homework. Try to not just get work done, but ACTUALLY WORK AHEAD on stuff. Start your day by working out. Make your bed every morning. ground yourself in routine and productivity, and then don't do tv/videogames/waste time until everything that SHOULD be done that day IS done.
     
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  18. Iceberg

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    Is it a rule or better to exercise earlier in the day than later.
    Some problems I have experienced whilst exercising at the start of the day is feeling tired afterwards and feeling sick whilst exercising in the morning.
     
  19. vitatertot

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    I've found that exercising earlier starts your day off better, but as you go on throughout the day midafternoon and late day can still be tempting. Exercise in early afternoon and the night may not be as much of a temptation for ya
     

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