My Penis is only 4 inches erected.

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Ok mate.
From someone who comes out if the same area.
Think about it like this.
A woman meets you, she starts liking you and both of you start having fun together. You laugh, you talk and you are both into each other.
Later you are at home, and she is lying next to you while you start kissing her.
There are two things how this can go after both of you are naked.
First situation:
She feels your dick and seriously doesnt care. Most woman will be like that if they are really into you
Second situation:
She feels your dick and does care. And this can go two ways as well.
Either she needs a bigger one or she is still fine. That is totally depending on the woman. If she DOES care and isnt fine.

But all of this....
doesnt take away your responsibilty to figure out to learn how to use what you have the best.
Its up to you to use what you have and learn how to master it.
Look up positions that are for smaller dicks, become a god with oral sex, become a god with your fingers and start figureing out what feels awesome for you.

I am saying all of this because i've been in the exact same position before i slept with the first girl who was really into me, and i wanted to sleep with as well.

I screwed social norms and put my pleasure first. At least when it comes to the penetration part. We waited until i was ready. And she was willing to wait until i was ready. I made sure she had an amazing journey until that point, trust me, she felt amazing, loved and desired every day, even wihout my dick being inside her.

And when we finally actually slept with each other, we did that on my terms and i did only what i felt like doing. I never asked, or thought about making her feel good. BUT, by doing that, we both had an amazingly beautiful first time. Doing what made me happy, automatically transitioned to her being happy as well. A good woman WANTS to please you and make you happy.
And the more you know and figure out what makes you happy the easier it is for her as well.

Talk to her and make it a process you are both involved in. Sex can be really hot and awesome with with a small(er) dick.

But nobody wants to hear about insecurities in the bedroom. I had them, i knew it will screw it up, so i went to polar opposite route and became the most dominant guy you can imagine. If you learn to own yourself, magical things can happen mate.

Good luck, if you have more questions, write me a PM please i think a lot of the stuff i say isnt really PC

 

I will give my completely honest opinion as a woman.

I dont think it's quite right to say that size doesnt matter, because clearly it does make a difference.

However, if you are having sex with someone you love who loves you, it isnt likely to be a big enough factor to make her unhappy or unsatisfied. I cant promise you she will never think "I wish he was a little bigger," but I'm sure there are things about her you would change too if you were honest with yourself.

Another important factor is to remember is that sex is absolutely NOT all about penetration! I'm sure it might feel that way to men, because that's likely the part you enjoy the most, but honestly, in my personal opinion as a woman, most of the time I couldn't care less about that part. In fact, sometimes I would rather not even do it at all. There are plenty of other things that feel great, so if you're worried that your penetration-game is lacking, focus on other things.

But most importantly, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER! Communicate! As her what SHE thinks, how SHE feels, what SHE wants and likes. Her opinion is the only one that matters, so she is the one you need to talk to. I mean, I could advise you to focus on oral sex, because that's what I like most, but then you could try that and find out that your partner hates it, because she isnt me and I have no idea what she likes. And neither will you, until you talk to her about it and become intimate and learn together.

That's something I really find sad about our culture, especially because of porn. People think they need to walk into the bedroom an expert, but that's not even possible in every situation. Even if you're really experienced, you might find a partner who hates all the things you're good at. You dont need to be an expert, you just need to be in love, make her feel special and cherished, and ask her what she likes. Women love that. Communication is important, and being listened to makes anyone feel valued and happy. Do that and you will be fine. You dont need to know everything or have a magic 12inch penis or something.

 

SCAM!

 

But seriously i think you are right.

Communication is key, even if it takes a lot of work. Good relationships are hard work. You have to keep each other attracted physically, emotionally and mentally as well. It takes effort not to take someone for granted, on both sides.

 

Nothing to feel shamed about bro.

 

Hey there bud, I'm around your height level and to be honest, when I was younger, I used to think I wouldn't measure up pretty well against other dudes from other ethnicities because well there's always that running joke about asians not being well endowed. Later found out, I'm above average for my ethnicity lol.

But that's not the point I'm trying to make. What I want to tell you is that what everyone else above this post have already said: 1) women love communication and each of them have different tastes, 2) theres more than one way to pleasure a woman (oral sex etc), 3) if they really like you for who you are as a person, then the physical side matters much less than you would think... all of that is true. The biggest thing, it sounds like, is for you to learn to be comfortable in who you are and if it's really that important to you to be able to pleasure a woman, learn how to pleasure a woman orally etc. practice with your partner etc.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19 and with a girl in college who I ended up being pretty in love with, even though two years later it didn't work out for us. But after that, there were quite a few other girls that I ended up with of different ethnicities and none of them ever had a complaint with how I was in the bedroom. So to sum it all up: Work on yourself to be the best you can be and accepting yourself wholeheartedly (I know this is hard because I'm still working on it myself and have made some progress), learn to interact with women and figure out their likes/dislikes and who they are as a person because I promise you sex without any emotion in it (well we're not P stars but you could almost call it P sort of if there's no deeper connection to be honest) is pretty empty after a while. So good luck man, give a shout if you ever want to talk more about this. Always happy to lend an ear