My nofap story thus far.

Hey guys hows it going.

Its currently 1:49 am here and I figured I'd write my story since my life underwent some major chances since I started nofap. I discovered nofap roughly 2 years ago through Frank Yang, he's a youtuber who I look up to. To start off my story I'd like to paint a quick background about myself, I was the typical porn addicted, socially awkward gamer, I still talked to girls and girls liked me but I never had the balls to tell a girl that I like her or ask her out or something of that nature. I also went to the gym a lot already before I discovered nofap but I got really serious about it when I got into my longer lasting streaks and I made some serious gains during those streaks. When I discovered nofap it was a revelation and I fell in love with it immediately, of course it was though and I relapsed tons of times but I kept trying it again and my streaks started lasting longer the longer I'd stick with it. Whenever it got urges I'd read a succes story, I especially loved 'My Friends Godmode'. I noticed that I got way more fluent and smooth when talking to girls and this resulted in me getting into a relationship with a girl. I still feel that I initially got into the relationship for all the wrong reasons (sexual reasons, I was 19 at the time and just started having sex so I wanted to pursue that) but I ended up really caring about the girl since she was so into me. Of course I was in love with her for some time but in the end she wasn't my type but she loved me so much that I'd just look past that. After being with this girl for half a year I went to Uni in another city, about 1.5 hours away from my hometown. I went home every weekend to be with her and my family, but I also wanted to discover who I was and what kind of traits nofap brought me over the years. So after being in Uni for another half a year I wanted to stay in the city where I study over the weekends instead of being with her, she did not like this and small arguments suddenly turned into fights. I broke up with her a half a year into my first year in Uni but I just felt so bad for her because she was completely broken and it felt horrible watching someone being so torn apart just because I wanted to discover myself. We got back together and I felt the spark again, fast forward a roughly year (last week) and I've broken up with her again. It was even worse this time but she understands now, I broke up with her because I really wanted to focus on myself right now. It might be a bit egoistic but I felt like I was living on auto pilot; studying, going to the gym and going back home. I didn't really want to go home every other weekend and it just did not feel right to keep her on a leash and just go do something with her whenever I felt like it, I ended it with her because I figured that's only fair to her. On top of that she wasn't really my type, and she could be very controlling sometimes. Another problem was, I didn't really felt the sexual attraction towards her anymore even though she is a very attractive girl. Now I'm single again after a relationship of 1.5 years and I feel on top of the world. I even feel like I'm handling the break up a bit too well but it just feels like a relief. I'm currently into a 2 month streak and can't wait to finally reach 90 days for the first time since starting nofap 2 years ago. My motivation to pursue nofap, go to the gym and get a structured life is through the roof. I'm currently learning about mediation, opening my chakras, philosophy and spiritually and I can't wait to fully understand it. I'm just so grateful for nofap as a whole, that being the community and the principle of nofap in general. I feel like Alex right now, we can all do it guys, and I hope to never fap again after hitting the post button.

Cheers


Edit: my nofap counter is not accurate since I never really updated it during my journey

 

Thanks man , after I broke up with my girlfriend downloaded tinder after a couple of days but I figured it is kind of against the spirit of nofap, I mean you have to put in 0 effort. Just swipe right and hope for a match, and get that dopamine hit when you get a match so I deleted all of those chat apps >> less wasted time. I even dare to argue that it is easier to pick up girls in real life then through a app because its easier to show confidence in real life than through words on a screen.

I mainly study and work out yea, I also hang out a lot with my friends, we have really close group of 6 friends we do a lot of things together. I started working out when I was 15, initially to get noticed by girls as well. Im almost 21 now and through the years I've learned a lot about fitness in general and for me its more therapeutic, connecting more with my body instead of living my life in my mind. I'm not going to lie, somewhere subconsciously I still make gains to get girls to notice me but I already feel like I'm quite noticeable so I could argue that I achieved this goal, but I rather argue that I changed my goal. But I'd like to add that over time, when you make more gains and get more into it you also start respecting yourself more in a sense that you lift for yourself and not for others. Also, when you lift solely for yourself it is way more fun and way less demanding. Another tip, unfollow all fitness accounts in instagram and what not, don't watch stupid fitness Youtube video with a few exceptions. I could recommend Joe Delaney, very informative channel which is way more than just fitness. Frank Yang is also a good channel but it is also a highly philosophical and spiritual channel. Those are the guys I mainly watch, I know there are other good channels but don't go around watching shit like Christian Guzman.

Edit: I realized i kinda drifted away from the topic, but I hope I helped you and that I answered your question properly

 

Definitely man, it just gives this feeling which I can't even describe. Like you're on top of the world all the time. I started getting into intermittent fasting as well, it is godly. I sleep properly, don't need to set an alarm I just wake up early naturally and well rested. I made a lot of strength gains as well and put on barely any fat while still gaining strength and size. Also, I'm even more focussed than I am on regular nofap. If you want to get to know more about fasting you should definitely check out leangains, the guy really know what he's talking about regarding fasting and just training in general.