My loneliness leads to PMO.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Spirit Seeker, Jun 3, 2019.

  1. Spirit Seeker

    Spirit Seeker Fapstronaut

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    Been staying out in a nothing to do town for a couple of years now. Most people out here go to bars and the what not and I'm a pretty sober person so It's hard to make friends. I spend most of my time alone in my room reading books,meditating, and watching YouTube.
    I want to get my life together but I suffer from ADHD and I don't want to take Adderall, Ritalin, etc. This isn't to excuse my lack of progress in areas of my life that I want to improve on, but It's hard without something to supplement my behavior especially when your brain is constantly looking for dopamine due to a lack thereof.

    I don't know what to do. I haven't had intimate interaction with a woman since the beginning of this year and I haven't had a relationship in 4 years nor a steady dating life. I'm a pretty odd guy I just read, wotkout(when I can muster), write poems and raps, dance a bit, I don't use social media with the exception of YT and now NoFap, I won't even touch sugar unless I can't ignore it, nor do i eat fast food, also I'm vegetarian,and I don't watch T.V. I ruminate alot and want to talk about deep things(philosophy,science, and spirituality). I need friends and a gf I can do that with otherwise I end up bored with the mundane topics people tend to linger on. I hate small talk but see it as a fundamental component of social interaction in an era where people are more invested in their phones than each other. I hope I don't come off as pretentious I just feel very different from most people.

    It sucks just going to a job I hate and coming home everyday just to do the same thing. Just to be alone again with barely anyone to relate to. My mind a frantic jumble of random thoughts incessantly looking for a way to express themselves and be known. Looking at the very device that contains my vice, wondering if I can use it to escape from this existence I can't help but approach with a tortured ambivalence.Immersed in a most noxious political environment when all I want is peace and a clear sense of sanity.

    I miss being where I used to live because I could go to the museum, go downtown to talk to beautiful women, visit various bookstores, join a club, or go to a social function. Out here those things are sparse at best and this place is rife with excessive nepotism. Don't get me wrong I needed to move out here to get away from bad habits that I'm fairly certain I've overcome. However my stay is now proving to be detrimental and I need a way out.
     
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  2. properWood

    properWood Fapstronaut

    Not sure of your age and your current status, but I can give some small points.

    Your immediate environment seems rather depressing, so getting a depression may not be that far away. First pill would be to change the environment, maybe a different job?

    Jinnu Krishnamurti famously said that "It is not a sign of health to be adapted to a sick society". And what I see is that you're trying to adapt to a sick place. There's nothing wrong with you, you seem to have good habits.

    However, I think friends and girlfriends are overrated. I don't have any close friend at all, they're casual friends from work and we never do stuff together outside work lunches. I really have no one that I can call at 10pm and say "hey, I need help". I have not had sex in 2 years, just a platonic relationship last year with a colleague. I recently quit my job and will take up a new one, because the old one was too depressing.
     
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  3. Pointlessaccount

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    There are pros and cons to every place. The place where I live is boring from a social point of view, similar to what you're saying.

    On the plus side there are many beautiful places to go for a walk and just enjoy nature. I'll probably move somewhere else soon, and then I'll miss some things about where I am now.
     

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