My life is a complete wreck

Hey @wantabetterlife -

me and you have so much in common I too have had major drug addictions, and have lost everything and felt like a total loser with nothing to hope for so I like to share a few words.

1- CONTEXT - You have to realize this experience you're having as a human being is very temporary. I know is hard to believe because it seems like you have another 40-50 years to live in this world but this is the very cause of our suffering. We think everything is permanent and we overlook that everything is CONSTANTLY changing.

The good news is that if you're penniless now, and you're in a dump, it's fuckin awesome because with some small changes and new decisions it can only get better. Do you hear me? It can only get better!

That means everything in your life is subject to change. Next year this time you could be in a new relationship with a much hotter girl, you could have a much better job than you ever had and you could be teaching this stuff to other people!

I have hit rock bottom many times and currently am going through my own version of challenges with money- but I'm here to tell you that the purpose of our life is not to have lots of money and lots of fun and pleasures, but the purpose is for us to evolve to a state of consciousness that is beyond suffering and can be joyful when we have everything or when we have nothing.

So now you in the dump, realize that every other human being you see will at some point experience deep suffering as your going through in some form.

Even though many others seem happy and have it all, everyone has their own form of suffering. This is the first noble truth, the truth of dukkha and unsatisfactory nature of our experience as mortal beings.

Everyone you see will lose their loved one, maybe they lose their job, may be they get cancer, there is 1000 shit that can go wrong with every one. You are learning compassion through this experience and you are no worst or better than any one else.

I recently did a search to look at the phsyical body after death and it is very disturbing to watch but it was very inspiring to see too. Every thing is changing and up in the air so your suffering and lack is also going to change soon.

Also you can search for "Top successful people losing everything and having to start over" Read stories of other millionaires who seemed to have it all, hot wife, lots of cards and money and then random shit happened and they lost every thing. I was reading a story of a guy who had it ALL! he was building nonprofit organizations in other countries and then by age 48 shit started to happen... His children started to have major issues that caused him intense pain, His business was taken away and some nasty shit happened to him and he became penniless. These are real stories of real people, they are not movies. This is life on planet earth.

The purpose of this life is NOT to have more, but to become freer from all conditions to reach the state of total freedom - freedom from the bondage to our own likes and dislikes, a new state of consciousness.

Anyway, You prob don't care for all this philosophical talk, so I'll give you a specific action step suggestion on how to change your situation... These are from my own experience so i know it works.

2. HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION:

Your suffering is created because you currently see the world from a limited perspective.

If you could throw away all your drugs and weed and everything else for even a day and go for a 30-minute run and breath and make a new decision to get any job even McDonalds - you would start a positive spiral. However, the momentum of depression and our old self is too strong - so you need to be able to get out of the house and go to a place to get emotional support.

I personally found the Alcoholic anonymous group to be incredibly helpful.

You can go there for free, and just sit there and say nothing or say everything you said here, and no one would judge you - and you somehow feel good and hopeful at the end of the meeting.

So you may want to go there, and get the free help that is available to you.

As soon as you make a decision to do whatever it takes you will see a positive shift.

So in my experience, few things helped me to get my hope back.

1) Going to a meeting with other people who I can speak to and feel love and support. Find a meeting near you https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-local-aa

2) Win-hof breathing and cold shower is proven to increase dopamine in your brain so if all else fail if you just watch the free videos by win hof on how this works you can do it anywhere - Win hof also knows to suffer his wife killed herself left him with 3-4 young kids. This is how he discovered this breathing method and the cold as a method to cope with the pain.

https://www.wimhofmethod.com/free-mini-class

3) Doing a daily discipline of morning workout and run and exercise - whether I feel like it or not.

4) Start sending out 1-2 resumes every day - and go to different grocery stores and places and fill out applications - that's it! just go and fill them out - forget how much they pay - you need them to give you a routine and put you besides other people so you can feel good again. within months you will start to blossom again. You are made to evolve you have no idea how much joy and happiness is waiting for you!

5) Learn the process of SELF FORGIVENESS - start to speak to yourself with compassion and self-forgiveness, you can say things like "I know I'm a worthless jobless penniless piece of shit and yet I choose to love myself..." you can say it and see how it feels...


To make it super simple

1. Throw away your drugs in the garbage now - tell your friend to not call you because your done with drugs - and lose their number.
2. Google and find a AA or NA group meeting near you - get a sponsor and just do what they tell you.
3. Start doing 30-40 minutes of intense exercise and do cold showers - this will fix your dopamine levels
4. Start fixing your resume and go to ANY JOB and start showing up every day for just a week and see how you feel


You can PM me too if you like any feedback

 

@wantabetterlife hey bro I just shared some of my experiential insights on this topic you may watch it here

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=10157073810849048

 

Perfect ! So happy to hear. Just the fact that your able to understand Eckhart's teaching and have interest in those topics is the very positive effects of all the suffering that you have been through - It's making a change from the inside so that your outside work/relationships will become better in the future and you will not place your whole happiness in them because you know they are all subject to change -

I suggest now that your feeling better use these times to start a new discipline (the 4 I talk about in the video - sleeping, meditating, healthy eating and exercising) even if you do a little bit each day, you start to develop momentum. Keep us posted!

 

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