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My husband has broken our marriage with a porn addiction

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Blackswan, Dec 21, 2017.

  1. Blackswan

    Blackswan Fapstronaut

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    I met my husband when I was 15 years old... my first love... I always wondered why I was so lucky having met a guy that was not interested to hv sex or even kiss me... even though I was against having a relationship before marriage I thought this is different... this is like two people getting to know each other... two people growing to be best friends..lovers...

    7 years later we married... I felt so lucky to hv married my soul mate... love of my life... the only love I new that existed... knowing we wr moving abroad to start our new journey made me feel amazingly special...

    when we married even though we spent time together building a marriage I always fell a disconnect from my husband in the bedroom... he never seemed interested to b close to me or hav sex.. I always thought mayb it’s because we are newly wed... maybe it’s because neither of us hav gone down that route before... but in our first year of marriage we were having sex mayb once every couple of months... I tried all different things... lighting candles... dressing up... making an effort in general for him... but nothing made him interested.. at the end of our second year of marriage I began to feel like something was wrong with me as my husband always told me he was too tired or he wasn’t interested tonight or told me to be nice to him and he may feel interested... at this point I felt like mayb it’s me that I have a problem... but eventually I turned to the family wanting to end my marriage... our family tried to speak to us both and keep the marriage alive... my husband came out with promises that he will help and fix our situation and that he doesn’t have high sex drive ect..... with my husbands promises I decided to give our marriage another go... after all I have been with my husband for Pretty much the whole of my life... at the end of the following year I found out I was pregnant with our first child... this gave me so much joy thinkng that our marriage will start being stable again... after my child was born this is when my husband was not interested in sex for 14 months... I told him he had to get help or something... we went for councling we went to doctors... after this we managed to have a little bit of a sex life... twice a month maybe.... I thought to myself I should jus be greatful mayb this is how a marriage is ment to be... soon after I was pregnant with our second child... after delivery I felt alone and suffered from post depression... I felt like I dint recieve the emotional support that I needed from

    My husband... he was always far away and disclosed.. my baby was 4 weeks old when I found my husband late at night watching porn.... later to find out that he has a porn Addiction since he was 12 years old... our whole life together he lead this double life... he would stay up at night saying he’s working he would turn me away all because he was addicted to porn

    My life fell apart... for me he had been the only person I had been with... the only love I had... after all the times our marriage almost ended he never once went to seek help... after counseling he never thought of speaking to me or a professional... he always made me seem like the issue... in heart broken and I’m trying to see another side to this all but I cnt... I feel torn like there was no value for our marriage... no trust... jus heartbreak...
     
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  2. ..Anna..

    ..Anna.. Fapstronaut

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    Oh my God, that story is terrible! What is he doing now? Wanting to change? Or he is in ''everyone does it'' mindset?
     
  3. Blackswan

    Blackswan Fapstronaut

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    He says he wants to change... but why dint he before? Why did he want to when I caught him? Is it the fear he may loose me? Is he being truthful or is all another lie? 20 years of porn!!!!
     
  4. ..Anna..

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    Could be fear or could be lie. Or fear at first and thinking that it gonna be easy, but after some while will relapse and ''understand'' that it is too good to drop and then lies will come back. Or fear which will end with something good for both of you. It depends what type of person he is, how much he loves you. We can't know it unfortunately :( I had suspicion that my fiance is faking the love for just not being alone (he admitted after that he loves someone else) so I knew he won't be motivated enough to drop and I left. Better for both of us. He now can enjoy his things and I can live in peace, win win.
     
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