My girlfriedn is coming to visit me. What to do?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Toni7, Jul 18, 2019.

  1. Toni7

    Toni7 Fapstronaut

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    So I'm in a long distance relationship for 3 years. We see each other cuple of time a year. She is now coming to see my. But, I'm in a good streak. I feel confident that I wont relapse or anything. But she is coming and is summer. We are going to be at beach a lot, swimming. We will not sleep in same bed. Actually in diffrenet places.. anyway.. I don't know if I shouldn't let her touch me or I will just let it go. I just know for sure that we won't have real sex, you now. How are babies made.. but other tipe of.. im not sure..
     
  2. BrazilianUser

    BrazilianUser Fapstronaut

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    Do what u want.
     
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  3. Kexas23

    Kexas23 Fapstronaut

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    I just got a gf while attempting a reboot. I had sex with her. It was amazing. I haven't had any reason to watch P since we starting having sex. I've even played with my triggers and still have no inclination to watch P. I think the gf is helping my reboot.
    We use P as a replacement for a real woman.
     
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  4. Toni7

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    My problem is.. I think that would be breking the streak.. if I have anything with her. You know, and my problem is not P. I don't watch it at all.
     
  5. Roman3

    Roman3 New Fapstronaut

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    yes agreed! it's so much easier is you have a great transparent relationship with a girl.
     
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  6. EightDalla

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    I don't think it's breaking your streak to have sex with your girlfriend. Just don't let her use her hand and you're probably good to go.
     
  7. Toni7

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    Haha I'm holding off for now. Maybe we are to fac** up in our heads to even think that is not good to have anything, becaouse we have problem with M, actualy with to much relapses..
     
  8. EightDalla

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    yeah man - the point for most isn't to just abstain from sexual contact.. it's to be open to healthy natural sexual behavior. If you're not ready - you could even tell her you're on a personal discipline quest and part of it is to not have sex.
     
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  9. Realitycheck

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    I wish it was this simple! Struggling! What happens if you have a transparent relationship but because of porn, when the novelty of hooking up (a few months in) wears off and my partner can’t get arouse by normal sex :( I’m the gf by the way
     
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  10. EightDalla

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    Hang in there lady! Maybe you could start exploring some fantasies in real life.. or even take a break from sleeping together, seeing each other naked, to build the anticipation. Is your fella NoFap on PM? could try PMO for a few weeks
     
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  11. Realitycheck

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    Ya thanks he is trying to reboot now and he’s in the flatline - I’m the first relationship he’s ever tried doing this with so it’s a learning curve for both of us!
     
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    I am in quite the same situation, on day 19 of a streak and will visit my gf abroad at day 30-40. Told her I want to try Karezza, will be interesting and a challenge for sure. Anyone having advice for a Karezza beginner? OP: how about Karezza or something similar?
     
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  13. Realitycheck

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    I’m desperate it’s taking a turn for the worse and he relapsed- broken heart.
    He lashed out saying comments like he’s been so horny and I’m the last person he wants sex with - feel sick.
    He cannot link an emotional bond with a sexual one and I don’t know what to do. He suffers with PMO
     
  14. Do her if you are both in the mood!
    Having sex with your GF is not only for your pleasure, but her's as well! That way you will also show you respect her!
     

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