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My first post, triggers everywhere

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dabuda, May 7, 2014.

  1. dabuda

    dabuda New Fapstronaut

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    I started NoFap since November 2013, it's like the moment I decided that I would do this, good things startes happening. I got a bartender job in a big company that I've always wanted to be in for the university stage of my life, and there are full of hot girls in this company. There are very interesting developments in myself since I started NoFap, I seek to improve myself, boost my self-cofidence and self-esteem, I had a sincere big smile on my face for simple things like looking at the horizon with sunshine and blue sky, adpoted alpha male body language and verbal language and saw how others around me behave differently (e.g. seeking my approval), saying what I really want to say without giving a shit about what others think about me, developed a deep voice, in a much more calm and relaxed state around people. These things gives so much power, and I feel much more powerful.

    However there are ups and downs, I relapsed, I go again, I relapsed again, I pick myself up and I go again, the longest I last were a 45 day and a 54 day. There are times when I feel socially awakward, uncertain of myself, low confidence, flat emotions, numb feelings, flatline and so on. I reached the stage where when I relapse, I binge for a week or so, which is really hard to stop. The major problem are the triggers, they are like everywhere. I look at facebook, there's trigger, I look at youtube, there's trigger, I look at torrent sites to download movies, there's trigger. I know, these I can avoid, but the triggers in TV shows and movies are really hard to avoid. Nudity are all over movies and TV shows, my favourite ones like spartaucus and game of thrones in particular, the scenes in there are almost no different than porn, it borthers me. Sometimes, I can control myself by detaching my sexual sense from me if that makes sense. But most of the time I can't control myself but to PMO to release my sexually charged urge.

    I don't wanna stop watching good TV shows and movies, and they are triggers, I don't want to binge when I relapse, any tips?
     
  2. NoneForMeThanks

    NoneForMeThanks Fapstronaut

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    Dude,
    I have cut out virtually all forms of media. I quit looking at Facebook, stopped watching rated R movies, I already dont watch tv and quit casually browsing the internet when Im bored. But I knew that this is what I had to do to get better. And So far its working amazingly.

    No one can tell you to quit doing these things, however if you truly want to get better you need to cut ties with your triggers. If you can't cut them all at once, maybe try gradually getting rid of things. Stop watching/ engaging with your biggest trigger first, then perhaps a week or so later try reducing your usage with others.

    Also, try branching out to television/movies that are guaranteed nudity free. If you find you must watch something, try watching a pixar movie. A little Finding Nemo can do a lot for a man ;)Hope this helped buddy, I know you can beat this!
     
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  3. dabuda

    dabuda New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the feedback man, I appreciate it. Cutting out all these things could be a big decision for me, since I rely on them when I am bored. But I will consider your advice, if it really has to be that way, so be it. Peace!
     

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