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My death grip possibly cured after 6 months. Thank you nofap!

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by troyan, Aug 7, 2017.

  1. HelpMePleaseThx

    HelpMePleaseThx New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much for saying this. I feel this is like an Alcoholic Anonymous Support Group. I must admit that I regressed to MO after 2 weeks without an orgasm and I feel terrible to have given in. I thought that I was stronger and could go cold turkey. But I really must. I have to accept that this truly is like being a drug addict or an alcoholic. And it is ruining my relationship. So I love that you said “Keep focused on your reason for doing this.”

    Unlike avoiding to go to a bar or buying drinks from a store, internet porn is too easily accessible. It is like living in a house with a stocked bar and fridge filled with alcohol. And then trying to go cold turkey. But yes, this really is the reality for perhaps most of us here. And we must all make it out. What we have is life destroying addiction. It is a disease. It lies to us that we will be happy to drink or to inject one more time, but this is all just an excuse. Perhaps I will just leave notes everywhere. Reread this chat messages everymorning or whenever I am weak. And to Make a calender of each day I could keep staying cold turkey. And although I have not yet been able to announce that I have been clean for 30 days, but I hope it is ok to announce that I have been clean for a week, then 2 and so on. Small steps.

    Also I will have to delete all social media apps. All images of beautiful women is the same as porn. Like lying to myself that a little sip of wine is all I will have.

    I know I will try to lie to myself once more to say the least. And I will need to remind myself the look on my woman’s face when she felt it was her fault. It was heart breaking.

    It would be like a family member finding out a drug addict has relapsed or an alcoholic has gotten drunk again. Or quit the rehab program after having promised to commit.

    I will have to not brush this memory aside. I cannot take for granted that she will always be here if I keep on making excuses to abuse my addiction.

    I needed to write this to you all. Perhaps it is a pledge. Yes It is my pledge. Although we are strangers. But like being in an Alcoholic Anonymous Support program, we are all here because we need help. And we have to hold each other accountable. We have to all get through this together. To be free from this disease. And yes it is a disease.
     
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  2. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut
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    You are welcome. :) Make the other person in your relationship (your gf?) your reason for doing this. When tempted by porn or p/subs, equate it with cheating on her. In effect, that is what you are doing. Focus on her - she is the reason for doing this. Even if porn is not involved and you are about to masturbate, focus on her - she is the reason for doing this. If necessary, imagine she is by your side and you are going to ignore her and selfishly pleasure yourself; get an erection you cannot get for her; take out your cock and give yourself a tremendous orgasm with her crying by your side, broken. Do not seek to improve man. Focus on her - she is the reason for doing this. Just stop this behaviour now, for the love of your life.
     
  3. HelpMePleaseThx

    HelpMePleaseThx New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you very much. Truly. Yes I love the straight to the point advice. And it is very graphic. It DOES help me to realize that I am cheating on her by doing this. I cant imagine what she must be thinking.

    Everytime I am weak. Bored. Stressed. Upset at her. Anything. I will refer to your truthful advice. Nothing should justify my action.

    If the roles were switched, I would honestly feel like “shit”. To see her get orgasm by looking at other men and not me.

    She wants to have children with me. And this disease I have is making her afraid and truly hurt. I do not want her to think that by marrying me that she cannot have children. It is insane to even make the woman I love worry about such a thing.

    Thank you for understanding me. And I am sure all the other men here would also agree my friend.
     
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  4. IGY

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    Well I read your other posts, so I knew the advice that would work because you love her so much. All the best.
     
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