My crush haunts me

I think about her before I go to sleep I think about her when I wake up.
I look for her in crowds, I wonder what's she's doing what she's thinking...
Most importantly I wonder if she thinks the same things about me.
You're only a kiss away...

Unfortunately the situation is sadly complicated. And i can't proceed with her as I normally would. Now I'm trying to navigate through uncharted waters that im terrified of drowning in.

 

Well there are two options you've got here;

1) You can cowboy the heck up, strut up to her and tell her straight-up that you're attracted to her and want to take full advantage of your masculine desires with her involvement

2) You can realise that she isn't that special, and that there are millions of other great women out there, possibly even better suited to you than her, and see about getting to know one of them.

Source: a lifetime of experience and regrets. Don't become a 40 year old fighting to themselves better when you can do it easier and with better results at your age.

 

She's a coworker

 

Lol for the record 99 percent of the hooksups are female! There was an incident when I was 18 back in 2008 that only blemishes that record

 

You're right about alot. One of the biggest things holding me back is the work place environment. The owner is paranoid about lawsuits etc. Any type of relationship is strongly frowned upon.
Am I using that as an excuse because I'm.scared to move forward with it? Probably.

 

My biggest fear is that... I've misinterpreted her signals. Even the slightest perception of sexual harrassment has become grounds for dismissal.

 

True. Fuck it's so much easier asking a girl out at a bar lol

 

As someone who discovered Mark Manson WAAAY too late in life, I wish there had been someone like him when I was 15, or even 21, who had sat me down and outlined what he said in Models. It would have saved me so much heartache and helped me to lead a far more fulfilling life.

Okay, so this isn't as bad as I was first fearing. Clearly you have the proverbials to go up to a girl and talk with her. This is a specific case you've got here. I'd echo @elevate, and suggest you ask her out in a mature way. If she shoots you down for whatever reason, you'll at least know that you've tried.

 

No I'm not entirely socially lacking lol. I've gone in for a beer and left with a girl so I can talk to people lol. Work in sales.
Im just either in the mood or I'm not to do it. It's up and down.

 

Indeed. I can see you've already got a great deal of discipline to get where you are already, and as much as I slag off about salespeople, you're much better at dealing with people than I am. Maybe I'll just shut my big mouth.

 

Haha I always appreciate the advice. At least it can offer a different perspective.

 

I'm 28.

It's not that I idolize her. It's that... She's great. We laugh at all the same stuff, we like the same shows, the same food. We understand eachother.
I was on a date once and the girl was hot but I was never closer to trying to sneak out the kitchen of a restaurant. I hated everything about her.
This girl... We see eye to eye on so much.