Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 5 months just broke down last night and told me he’s addicted to porn. We’re both in our late 30’s so we’re not kids here, I’m divorced with a pre-teen, so my plate is already pretty full. I knew there’s was a disconnect physically but just didn’t know how serious until last night. He says it stems from when his dad passed and it’s been a way to relieve stress(emotional outlet) ever since. He was so brave with sharing and he expressed the want for change. That he was ready to find a deep meaningful relationship again. He’s ready to put in the work. Naturally, not knowing anything about the severity of this particular addiction, although my ex husband was an alcoholic and I assumed this was just as intense, I did not expect to feel as hopeless as I do now after researching. Everything I’ve read has told me basically if we’re not married, run. The amount of betrayal, low self esteem, trust issues, etc. is all to much for a beginning relationship. *sigh But with everything I’ve read it was always “finding out”. He offered this up, of his own accord, and for that I can’t help but be hopeful. I’m head over heels in love this man. We fell fast and we fell hard. But now..... I just don’t know how to decide if the journey to heal him at my expense is worth it? Any advice from women who’ve been in similar situations would be greatly appreciated. I want him to find his way back to a loving intimate relationship.