My 3rd Attempt

Hey NoFap,

Honestly, I'm no stranger here.
I've been here at least twice before with two different accounts. Each time I've given up and have returned to my pathetic PMO filled lifestyle.
However, recently I took a trip to Thailand, disconnected from the world, did a little introspection and realised that things need to change.

One of my resolutions has been to take better care of myself, which has given rise to other sub resolutions, like eating properly, meditating everyday, focussing on what's important to me, i.e friends and my career.

So far, I've only began meditating everyday, I'm yet to get started on the others. That's when I realized I couldn't, exercise everyday, or focus on my relationships with PMO being at the centre of it all.

Every time I read success stories, it gives me hope that there perhaps exists a better life for me.

I'm in university rn, and honestly 2 years have been horrible if not anything. I've changed for the worst in many ways, I don't have friends, can't remember the last time I didn't have dinner alone.
For some reason I've shot down girls that have shown interest in me, only because I knew PMO was there. I hope to have a better life the remaining 2 years.

These are the things I hope will happen to me as I go through Nofap:
- Increase in social confidence
- Clarity of thought
- Better interpersonal relationships
- Energy to workout
- Passion for my career and hobbies

Guess what, I had most if not all these things before I fell into the hole that PMO is, I've struggled to get out, but everytime, I slip even deeper.

I realised the problem with my previous attempts was that I wanted to abstain only from MO but realised that P is also a major part of the problems and that just MO doesn't really make sense. You have to take P out of the picture.

This community has always been supportive of me and I'm thankful for that and I hope y'all will be supportive of your brother's 3rd and possibly final attempt at this.

Goal: 100 days of PMO abstaining
To be extended to 365 days

I've had enough of this shit.

See you on the other side peeps )

 

Day 0:
Just finished with the introduction.
100 days to go
Feeling confident about it though

 

Thanks for your reply

I can totally relate to what you said, everytime I try and figure out what's wrong with my life, I somehow end up here. It's not the only problem, but it's a major one.

75 is very impressive, I've only been able to manage ~20 days so far.

I'm looking forward to your updates. BOL and stay strong

 

Day 1:
Urges man!
Wouldn't go away no matter what.
I thought a blog post would help so here we go.
I've been pretty busy today, but it's still hard to fend of urges. I've had urges pop right in the middle of a test I was writing. It's hard to realise how addicted you are to something, until you start to walk away from it.

I've been able to fend off all urges so far, hopefully I'll be able to do it until I go to bed
And sleep
Without doing the deed

Ciao bros

 

I came across a thread called Why NoFap?
I was surprised why we don't see it more often

Here's my reply to it:

Can I weigh in with my 2 cents here?

I've been in that position before, I wanted to start this journey because of the benefits that people had experienced and as a teenager, it somehow felt like the solution to all my life's problems. Increased social confidence, attention from the opposite sex, clarity of thought, better concentration Yada yada.

It was only after failing twice that I realised that, doing it for the benefits wasn't going to take me across the line. My impatient self would eagerly wait for any of these things to happen in a few days, and if they didn't I'd think to myself, what's the point.

As you can see it's not a very good long term strategy. IMO don't start NoFap because of the magic that is at the end of it, start when you realise that your PMO addiction is getting in the way of your life, and how NoFap could make you a better person.

I eagerly waiting to see what y'all think about this

Ciao

Feel free to reply )))

 

Day 2:
It's hard, the urges are there, but I've been busy so that's kept em away.

I've decided to break this seemingly long journey of 100 days into parts
10 days - No O, PM are okay
10-20 days - No MO, P is fine
20+ - cold turkey

I realised that suddenly cutting out PMO wouldn't do it for me, it's very hard and I'm more likely to relapse that way.
I've allowed myself PM, but no O, because I feel O is one of the biggest contributors to the brain fog.
That's it for today

 

Day 3:
My sexual self was much calmer today.
Well that and I've been very busy.
I've realized boredom is one of the biggest triggers for me. If I can keep that away my journey will become alot easier.

Saw a cute chick today, unlike my previous creepy self whose first thought would've been to go back and please myself to mindless fantasies with this person I've never met, my first thought was to go and talk to her and get to know her.
Some progress given I was before.
Obviously the talking part didn't happen, need to work on that but otherwise at least my thoughts are healthy

That's all for today peeps

Ciao

 

Day 4&5:
Lesson learnt
PM but not O is not possible
Nope
There's no point. It's like edging
I realized refraining from O is making it worse for me.
So I thought I'd revise my earlier plan to
5 days - No O
10 days - No MO
After that cold turkey

 

I shall go through one of your journals for sure.
I like how you're avoiding every possible trigger of a relapse. Looking back, I believe that's one of the places I made a mistake. Even if I had decided that I were to abstain, the triggers were still infront of me, every trigger making my journey harder.
Thanks for the tips )

 

Day 8: wow can't believe I'll be hitting 10 days soon. I'm already feeling alot different. Much more motivated, a little less brianfog and an increase in energy. I finally did my laundry xD, took some time to really evaluate my career.
I also observed I submitted tasks that I would normally be late for, on time. Less procrastination.
The urges are there though, milder than the first few days for sure, but I'm learning how to deal with stress without relapsing.
I believe negative emotions were a major trigger for me, and I'm slowly learning to deal with them rather than avoid them.
Tbh, it's kinda scary knowing that I've only two more days to watch P. After that for the next 90 days, I won't be seeing a naked woman at all. I wonder what changes that will bring to my perspective and whether my urges will push me out of my comfort zone towards find a girlfriend for once.
I've been very busy the past few days, hence the not so regular entries.
But I think writing entries thrice a week, than everyday is better, as it allows me to summarize more, and covers a slightly wider perspective.
My next entry will most probably be when I "have" to look at a naked picture of a woman.
That's it for now, I've got work to do xD
Ciao

 

Thanks for the recommendation
I've never thought of approaching NoFap that way. It seems like the best way to do it though, because you're not overwhelmed by your goal and instead your focus is on a more attainable short term goal. Personally, 90 days doesn't seem like a big goal to me. After going through a few of the entries I realised that by 90 days you get a genuine reason to keep following NoFap, given the changes that people experience. Hence I picked it. I realised if I was trying out something, I needed to give it, how much time it required so that I was properly able to evaluate its need in my life.
At the moment, I am motivated to follow that goal and I think I've done just fine.

I might probably switch to your strategy if the going gets hard, still keeping the 90 day target mind.

Thanks for the tip though. Take care )))

 

Day 11:
Why the entry?
A little background: I downloaded this app called FapWatch which is a very simple counter to count your streaks. I've had it on my phone for around 4 months, my longest streak being 10 days 18 hours.

Well today I just broke that.
Tbh, I don't clearly remember the last time I was able to abstain for so long.
Clearly NoFap has given a slight bit of purpose to my journey. I'm excited to see what lies ahead and to keep you guys updated.

Ciao )))

 

A follow up

My urges at probably like a 3/10 which is not bad and I've been able to handle them.
They've been this way for the past few days.
It's much easier to handle than day 3-4 where I was at 9/10 throughout the effing day.

My urges also come in bursts, mostly when I'm bored, or not doing something especially engaging.
I'm able to focus a little more, been able to think a little faster. I'm also feeling a little more motivated than before.
However, social confidence, anxiety, are still the same as before I guess. Nothing has changed there.
I still tend to overthink situations.
Hopefully the meditation helps with that.

Ciao )))

 

Day 13:
I'm one day away from the next goal on fapwatch, i.e apprentice, I've never been able to hit that before, but it would be great to finally be able to get that badge.
I think I'm going through what people call a flatline, whereby urges are down to almost zero.
They barely come to mind, even if I'm bored.
I'm noticing a decrease in libido I guess, I don't really feel urges even if I see someone really hot. But that's good because i think it makes me view women as people and not some trophy or object towards which I have a craving.

Idk how this will change my attitude and what it's results will be but I'm looking forward to it.

Ciao )))

 

Day 18:
Longest I've abstained in quite some time. Wow
I haven't been 'feeling' different per say, but I have noticed a few changes.
I somehow 'want' to do productive things.
I am at a greater ease around girls, and infact people in general.
There's a decrease in negative thoughts, like, in the amount of negative thoughts that I have. But even the irregular meditation might be contributing to that.
I worked out, finally.
The most important one I feel is:
When I'm bored I want to do mind-stimulating things such as play a competitive game, learn something, solve puzzles or problems, unlike my previous self who would resort to mind-numbing activities such as pmo, day dreaming etc.

I still need to work on my self confidence, appetite, regularity of meditation, taking my medicine on time, a tad bit of laziness still left over, and negative thoughts.

Urges: wow, look at the effect NoFap has, I almost forgot to talk about urges. Urges are minimal, like very rarely I feel like watching P, no MO urges though, whenever I see someone cute I genuinely feel like talking to them, than just going home and drowning in my senseless fantasies.

That's it
Ciao

 

Day 22:
I was thinking about how I'm still single and never been in a relationship and it's really upsetting. Fortunately, the urges that followed were predictable and easy to control.
I've been having urges to watch NN soft core ish things, because of that.
It's hard to fend them off but I'm trying my best.
These urges are definitely easier to control than the first few days.
I've become more patient, it's something that I've noticed.
My overall mood has been a little down. I miss a good friend circle in my life. I have a few, but none really close.
All these factors, of social voids in my life are pushing me towards a relapse.
Hopefully I get past this.
Ciao