Just as there are many forms of sexuality between different sexes (the responsible faithful father, the cuckold subject to a dominating woman, the promiscuous stud on one-night stands), so there is as much diversity in relationships between the same sex. This is why labels like ‘gay’ and ‘straight’ are reductionist, and a source of confusion. These labels both divide people (where there may be overlap) and merge people (where there may be nuances). Within the range of relationships between men is a form of mutual masculine bonding. For millennia, this was what forged bonds and unbreakable trust between tribal warriors. Why are you confused that as a masculine guy you feel some attraction towards another masculine guy and his masculinity? How far would the tribe have got if fit men did not bond to hunt or wage war as one? It can be expressed in many forms, but because this type of relationship serves to form a strong team, the core principles are masculinity and mutuality. There is no submissive and no dominant in this pair. It does not rule out any attraction you may have towards females. This is homoeroticism centred on our physicality. It is a celebration, admiration and appreciation of each other’s masculinity. It makes us more powerful than we could be alone. Does this help explain how you feel towards other men?