More motivation to approach/flirt with women when you don't wank.

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Runtilmylegsdropoff, Apr 7, 2017.

  1. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    I am probably being Captain Obvious here but I noticed that I have more motivation to approach women with the possibility of asking them out on a date when I am on a nofap streak.
     
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  2. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Anyone else see this as a positive incentive?
     
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  3. iWILL123

    iWILL123 Fapstronaut

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    Yea, it is indeed a positive incentive. Its the main reason I joined NoFap.
     
  4. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I think that fapping and as a result not being 'game' to pursue actual live women is so pathetic. Just my own personal view that motivates me to no longer MO.
     
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  5. SyrusDrake

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    Well, I'm certainly motivated more but still just as unable. So it's not really a good change. It's just a stronger urge to do something that's not possible, which is pretty damn irritating.
     
  6. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Well something to look forward to when you've healed up.
     
  7. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    As for me, I love the challenge of approaching an attractive woman that catches my eye and meet her out of the blue.
     
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  8. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    I remember someone saying that porn viewing is 'cuck' activity because you're literally watching other guys having sex with women. I'd rather have that extra motivation to see a woman in real life, and approach her.
     
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  9. AriAmaa

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    Definitely
     
  10. J247

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    Probably, but haven't seen anyone.
     
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  11. I've never really had a problem approaching females, even when fapping, hell even while fapping. I used to have an issue, but then my friend in high school said "stop giving a fuck about scoring" and I thought "well, that's simple enough" so I stopped caring and haven't had a problem since.

    My guess is us guys give off some sign of desperation when we're overly focused on getting laid, that women can actually sense this and it automatically repulses them. Like when someone farts and it's so pungent you can literally taste it in your mouth.
     
  12. I Free I

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    As for me, I get all the benefits from NoFap EXCEPT this one right here... the approach . Maybe It hasn't came to my senses yet or maybe I'm still afraid but I understand that I do have to work on this .
     
  13. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    It's just something you should do, and sometimes you will get rejected, but that's not the end of the world. Not every gal will be interested in you, but if you never try, the answer will always be no. The no that you told yourself.
     
  14. LoyalKnight

    LoyalKnight Fapstronaut

    Well, we shall not expect that NoFap will make us approach women, this is the wrong mindset. It will change the view we see women, but it will surely not make us a flirtbomb when we never flirted before.

    We shall not join NoFap just for the girls, that is the biggest mistake one can do.
     
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  15. peterprism

    peterprism New Fapstronaut

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    If you want more motivation to flirt with women then you can use best tinder lines on dating apps so that you will get a nice response, when you start getting a response and you will have a nice conversation then automatically you will get the motivation to chat.
     
  16. Mankrik

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    Absolutely. The first time I ever asked someone out was when I was 17 and on day 130. Today I'm only on day 4 but I'm at the point where I can confidently cold approach.
     
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  17. rebeccahickshq

    rebeccahickshq New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for sharing your details and experience. I think it very good for me.
     
  18. Burrich1

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    Personally, I haven't approached women I didn't know with the intent of trying to get laid, but I have noticed a severe decrease in social anxiety.

    I've been to the club a handful of times since starting NoFap. I find myself actually going up to the girl wearing an amazing dress and telling her that it looks incredible. Or there was a girl the other night who obviously spent a ton of time on her hair with extensions and layering it up and weaving yarn thru it. I told her it was amazing. Anyway, some times they smile and say thanks and that's it. Sometimes they introduce themselves and we talk. Sometimes they are just surprised but I find they come up to me an hour later at the bar and want to strike up a conversation with me.

    Hell. I haven't even limited it to girls. I went up to a dude the other night and told him his New Rock boots kicked ass. He smiled a huge smile and said thanks and we talked a little later. He was obviously proud of them and people either didn't notice or say anything to him ever.

    Honestly, I feel like it's building up my confidence. I'm usually people watching when I'm out anyway, and my philosophy now is that If I notice something positive, and I have an opportunity to, why not tell the person. Plus I honestly don't care if I'm going to get laid, but I'm making new club friends and they are introducing me to their friends and now I'm becoming all a social person instead of hiding in the corner just watching and hoping someone notices me.
     
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  19. kingpietro

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    So you use lines to get woman? Because you feel if you don't use those line's you aren't worth getting her attention?

    Just be youre confident self and she will like or or she won't..
     
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  20. Hitto

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    This is the right mindset to have bro good job
     

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