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Men's guilt?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, May 24, 2019.

  1. Today, something on the other hand:
    First of all, I am aware that as men, we now have a very, very hard time.
    A woman can wear mini skirt and go to the club and she probably will not go out alone.
    Men are more often homeless, more often are commiting suicide and so forth.

    But for the third time in my life I'm during the long streak (I belive that it will be the longest, I want to quit it forever), and again I got a feeling of guilt for what we did to women through pornography. Women are more emotionally sensitive, but they are meeting men who are addicted to pornography, they feel only as a sexual object.
    How many times we didn't want to go out of the house, because we jerked off and were like zombies.
    Now I am probably sadder than before rehab, but because now I see the reality as it is, not dosed by any unnatural amount of dopamine.

    If you have or will have girls, treat them well!
    They mostly do not watch porn and they wonder where are the real men...
    ...and when they will be happy and who will give them emotions.
     
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  2. AnxietyDude

    AnxietyDude Fapstronaut

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    Actually more women today PMO, then in past years. And tend to also view women in a way like men do. Saw some stats were 1 in 3 women that PMO's does so looking at other women.
    I get where you are coming from and often times women in these industries had screwed up childhoods like many of us. I do feel bad at times, especially for he ones that commit suicide. They got to the point of no self worth, very sad. Are we a part of it as you mention? Maybe, if we did not watch and buy, they could not sell. Drugs are allot like this. Want to stop our nations drug problem stop taking drugs.
    But is it the drug dealer or users fault there is a problem? Id yes these women why to a point are victims also are adults making choices. Just like we do when we PMO. I have thought about it allot and now find extreme stuff off the table. Once bondage and other areas like that were and interest until I read this was the worst area for women and degradation. But only lasted a years for me to be done with it.

    Women are loving caring being, much more by nature then men as a whole.
    I am troubled that many in the industry are sad and not happy with themselves. But neither am I
    most times. Is my own self abuse in PMO, the same as their abuse? I am buying and they are selling.
    In a sense I am the drug addict and they are the dealers and it ends when one sides stops.
     
  3. ClickClickBoom

    ClickClickBoom Fapstronaut

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    Sadly society conditions this to happen more and more.
    I know where your coming from i think about it sometimes too.
     
  4. Reborn16

    Reborn16 Fapstronaut

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    "These mountains you carry, you were only meant to climb"

    Don't take on any external guilt man. If you do something regretful, own it and move on. But please don't try to feel guilty for the state of affairs as it is today.

    Many women these days are not ideal to date anyways. They sabotage themselves in their own ways. Eat too much, get drunk every weekend, afraid of dating someone genuine, and yeah some watch porn.

    The woman at the club in the mini skirt goes home with the male equivalent: they are both shallow and hiding their real character.

    These days you know what gets my attention? A woman that doesn't have super revealing clothing, isn't pushing a phone into her face as she walks, and if she shows kindness to a stranger? That's a girl worth meeting.

    TLDR; don't think most guys are messing up, while most girls are patiently waiting and doing nothing wrong.
     

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