Masturbation is taking over my life

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  1. 654321

    654321 New Fapstronaut

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    Since I don't know what to do anymore I decided to reach out for help. I have been masturbating since a very young age. Right now I masturbate several times a day. I don't watch porn and I have never had an orgasm in my life. The weird thing is that it isn't related to something sexual. For example: I am putting on make-up and it doesn't work. I get frustrated so I start rubbing my clit. While I masturbate I can look at the wall and think of the groceries I need to do later that day.

    Because I can't orgasm it feels like there is no end. My clit never feels sore so I can go on and on. This causes that I spend hours working on a certain task. I just can't concentrate. It's so frustrating and it makes me feel gross.

    I really want to quit masturbation so I can finally get things done in my life. I tried to but I just can't control myself. What can I do to stop the urge of masturbating?
     
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  2. Sackstor

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    Have you ever used a vibrator??
     
  3. 654321

    654321 New Fapstronaut

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    No, I haven't but I really want to try it sometimes. I still live with my parents and I'm afraid that if I have one they will find out.
     
  4. Sackstor

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    I think you are going to totally desensitized urself by rubbing so much.
     
  5. GhostWriter

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    OK, we need to take a look at Circle Behaviors. Go research it. If you need help with it, let me know.
    I believe you can orgasm. You just haven't gotten there yet. And that's OK, because that will push your brain chemicals over the edge.
    Likely desensitization. When you stop masturbation, the sensitivity will return over time.
    Well skip on the "gross" part. You're in very familiar company here. Anything you may feel shame, guilt and embarrassment for is very familiar here.
    This is that "one day at a time" that people often talk about. If you need more information on it, let me know. But there are lots of references to it all around.
    This was incredibly inappropriate and unnecessary. Have you used one?
    Parents or no parents. Don't go down this path if you haven't already. You'll have another thing you'll have to quit.
     
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  6. Retentionman

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    Focus, you can do this
     
  7. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Take a time out. Only females i heard of that had a problem like this are nymphomaniacs.
     
  8. nudae

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    This is unnecessary. Be helpful instead of throwing around nonsense.
     
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  9. Castielle

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    Some of the responses I this thread are so offensive and unwelcoming. Boys, if you cant be respectful to the women here, then stay out of the women's section.

    @654321 I hope you find some good support here from the many supportive people on this site! Feel free to ignore inappropriate comments or questions.

    We are all in a similar boat here, so hopefully that can give you a little bit of solace as you try to improve your life
     
  10. Celibi

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    Maybe you should try to make a boyfriend. A relationship could fix this problem. Have you ever had one, or you are still a virgin?
     
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  11. GhostWriter

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    OMG, what is wrong with you people? This young lady came here for what now?
    Here. She said it right here on her opening post.
    • No, she doesn't need a f'ing vibrator. Just how is that supposed to help her reach her objective to quit masturbation?
    • You are sorely missing out on hearing things then. Sorry, but "nymphomaniacs" are but a subset of it, so I find this comment to be rather absurd.
    • And maybe she shouldn't try a f'ing boyfriend. The last thing you need to introduce in your life is another variable that will potentially help you, you guessed it, masturbate. This would be the optimum time to ditch any idea of a boyfriend to grant you the best opportunity to clear out your head. How the hell could this fix the problem? She already said:
      This won't fix the problem. It will exacerbate it. It isn't about sex anyway.
    • Oh, and let's not forget this gem!
    Good grief. Please stop helping her. You're not anyway. None of this is helpful to her at all.
     
  12. Celibi

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    Ok, maybe you are right. If she says there is nothing sexual about her problem, she might have a psychological one. So masturbation seems to eliberate her from stress. But obviously this is a false assumption, so she would rather seek help in this direction.
     
  13. Celibi

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    She sould also consult a psychologist.
     
  14. GhostWriter

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    Well of course it is a psychological problem. You do understand that this addiction has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with a dysfunctional wiring of the brain, right? And almost always without exception, masturbation is a coping mechanism for some form of stress. She IS seeking help in a good direction.
    By your own assumption, then one could easily rationalize that anyone, everyone, with any pornography or sexual addition whatsoever should consult a psychologist including yourself, right? I mean, after all, you are here for the same reasons, right?

    I'm not trying to pick on you. I just don't think you really know how this diseases manifests itself, and like others, give some incredibly horrible advice. Given what she has disclosed to us thus far, I'm inclined to disagree with your assumption that she needs to consult a psychologist. She might, but not based on a preponderance of the evidence thus far.
     
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  15. Newgirl

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    Welcome to NoFap!
    Don't get discouraged you just need to retrain your mind. Try to replace the bad habits with good ones. Little by little you will regain your freedom. Stay optimistic, happy and alert :)
     
  16. control your life

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    welcome to this site!
    If you feel you cant stop M at once , maybe is good idea setting some goals , and increase the sober days each time .
    Just concentrate to slowly move forword in your goal quiting! Normally after 30 days sober ,the urges starts weakening and are more and more controllable ,so you can stop them even for a second! With your days sober ,your confidence will grow too , and you will fight back successfully ! If you fail ,dont give up trying ,it is the right way to go ! Good luck on your path!
     
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