Masturbating once is not a "relapse" it's a "reset" - Risky/excessive masturbation can be a relapse.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Alexander, May 30, 2018.

  1. GregHill

    GregHill Fapstronaut

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    I masturbated twice yesterday, one time was a gruelling two hour session with porn the second was a no porn 10 minutes job. I am taking this as a reset, I have only been doing this a couple of days I have certainly learned from the experience and highlight both the problematic elements of my masturbation habits and things I should avoid.

    It has heightened my resolve as spending hours banging away at my dick is not what I want to do at any point in the future.
     
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  2. kingbob3

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    Day 20.

    Yesterday was the most important day of my life. I was all positive the whole day, I accepted all my past failures, was relieved of the baggage I was carrying of not delivering and not coming up to the mark in my past most importantly I took a decision and sticked to it. It was in my mind all the way from the starting, it was my backup plan but in order to even start you need to accept it, that yes this is what I am going to do and accordingly execute the prepared plan, but I was in a denial mode. I was fickle minded and wasting my precious time, but I decide not to live a life of regret still I have ample room to achieve my goals, goals for which I am born for. There are to broad categories of friction force, static and kinetic, static friction works between two bodies when they are at rest, kinetic friction works when they are moving. And its a known fact the coefficient of static friction is always greater the coefficient of kinetic friction which means maximum energy is required to start a static body to moving than a body in motion already. Maximum fuel/energy is burned in a train engine to give it an impetus to start moving whereas when its in motion then the unit consumption of fuel is comparatively less. Thereby maximum energy of mine was consumed to start moving, now since I made a goal last night all sorts of action plan automatically came in my mind. Now the most important next step is action. Motivation without action will give frustration which will eventually lead me into a failure albeit which I am not afraid to face now its just I need to learn from it so I can be resilient and bounce back with a greater force.
    I have a very high sexual drive and its a common trait of all the successful legends no matter at what point of life they achieved their goal. Since I am on this journey of nofap, I am accumulating all this extremely high cardinal drive of energy and I can achieve my dreams and even more. Just need to channelize it in a progressive way to achieve my goal. I already feel the extra energy I have after 20days of this amazing celibacy, tomorrow is a very important day since it will be 21days of nofap. My brain will be very comfortable after tomorrow with handling these urges and flatlines cuz I have beared the hardest in the first 21days. Next target will be 30days and then exactly 66days when my brain will totally forget the filthy explicit contents I have been watching all my life. It might also change my attitude towards women, I will admit it that due to porn intake I have this filthy habit of objectifying women and have this solid sexist attitude towards them, which in turn has also developed in me a complex in which I have trouble even to have normal conversation with any women except my mother. I expect all this would be gone and my self esteem and self confidence would have risen by then. But I need to be in the present today is just the 20th day and I am living in the future thats the root of my demotivation sometimes, action will only reinforce my faith, so lets live every moment and work towards achieving the goals.
    I would like to ask the people those have achieved a successful nofap of 66days+, 100+ and so on to write to me. To tell me their regime, of how they achieved their goals, did they fapped without porn anytime in their journey, did they had a night fall due to access of sexual drive whats so ever. It will be of great help and I would really appreciate it.
     
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  3. Narceb

    Narceb Fapstronaut

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    I am a single student and going full Nofap i.e. no PMO and not even single arousing pic but, i keep getting thoughts about it. How to deal with it.
     
  4. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    You probably want to start a new thread for this. You will get these thoughts all the time, because that's the nature of addiction. They will go away, but it will take a long time because your brain is in such a habit of doing this.

    You need to retrain your brain — replace the old habit with new habits. What can you think about instead of porn? Choose something — anything — healthy, whether it's your studies, doing a crossword or some other puzzle, going to the gym, whatever. Some people find meditation helpful, because you learn to observe your thoughts without judgement and then gently move on to different thoughts.
     
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