Marriage Sex Problem

Perhaps she’s at a mans house this very moment being tied up and dominated and wondering why you can’t do this to her.

Stop the porn, stop fantasizing and stop calling the attractive women you ogle “bitches” I can see why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. I just can’t understand why she hasn’t left you.
If this is a real kink that isn’t going away and she’s not willing to play along perhaps you both need a serious talk. Maybe an open relationship? Where she can also get something sexual on the side? Perhaps a separation? I don’t know, but expecting her to just allow you to see a domanatrix when she stayed by your side after you admitted to infidelity is not realistic.

 

Sorry you are so upset. Best of luck with whatever relationship problems you are going through !

 

I honestly like some of your ideas after thinking about it. I would love an open relationship and it wouldn't upset me in the least if she was into being Dominated provided she was safe. As for the calling females "bitches" that's not of my vocabulary. I refer to my spouse by her name and the Dominatrix by the term Mistress or Goddess. Prehaps you have me confused with what your boyfriend calls females. In any case you shouldn't be so judgmental towards others.

 

I apologize it was the OP that was using such language.

I still stand by my idea that a conversation needs to take place if you’re in a sexless marriage perhaps you could have an open one? Where love is between you and your wife but you’re each able to get what you both deserve in the side.

 

Thank you,apology accepted. Sex for us lagged off after the birth of our child and that was not really a problem for me because I always orgasm to femdom thoughts since I was a teen. It's all I know. My wife has never cared about me watching porn,but I also never had erection issues,still don't. When I told her about the Dominatrix she was worried about scandal if ever arrested. I am not an important person but I have an important job. I stopped seeing the Dom for two years,but I have been back for about three months. I'm not proud of it.

 

You're not doing this right, if you don't start seeing at least some 60-years old attractive after a while . Kidding and kinda not, I'm a 37 years-old guy, no fetishes, and let me tell (seriously this time) you if you are strict you will reap the benefits.

As for not wanting to treat your wife like a bitch? Gosh, every normal guy will want to do it every once in a while, she will like get all wet when you to take her roughly from behind while whispering dirty words in her ears, are you kidding me? This is another clue that you will need to stop compromising IMO. Let your brain reset and take her like a man.

I can attest that not fooling around will make you rediscover the things you found attractive in the first place about her. Studies have shown that using porn sharply decreases the satisfaction with your partner.

 

This is what I am thinking too. It's easy to become fixated on the other stuff. It's harder to realize the other thing it's keep you from. A person only has so much mental energy. I don't know if there is an easy fix for this. It's seems like a stalemate in my opinion. Seems like something has to give. It's impossible for you to be fully present with your wife in this state. I wonder if it may be better to let her find someone who would enjoy being with her. Just a thought.

 

Mi opinión (traductor de Google)
No es necesario confesar con tu esposa. Es necesario hablar con alguien que pasó por lo mismo que tú.
Solo debes comprender a tu esposa.

Me pasa lo mismo.
Busca sobre los efectos colaterales de la adicción al PMO.

Zapa

 

I have observed what they call "brain plasticity" by observing myself - my tastes would change as would the porn I watched. I was the same guy, yet my preferences could go from skinny to very shapely (not obese, mind you) in a few months.

I cannot stress how important it is to let these fixations be changed by the restoration that happens naturally. No partner can "shapeshift" to keep herself/himself attractive "no matter what".

No woman deserves to live with a porn-controlled husband (and the other way around, eve if it's more rare) - especially if she is a rare kind of a gem. I see my abstinence as an investment for my future wife, whenever she will appear. Statistically, I will be more of a man, character-wise, than most men today. This, on top of the other benefits I am already seeing.

 

It might also help you to change your attitude about other people. The "hot bitches" you see are people. You know, with feelings and thoughts and something to contribute. To say "I see attractive women" is a more neutral statement that acknowledges them as people with the added trait of being attractive to you.

Are you doing any therapy to deep dive into your sexual template? I would not go so far as to say that you will one day find your wife attractive. I really don't know. What I am saying is that comparing your wife to "hot bitches" will never get you there. The fact that you see your wife as a person and others as objects and you for some reason can't be attracted to the whole person but only to objects is the place to start.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

Seems you need to take some space from your wife and those things will be clear on your head.

If your wife is submissive, fuck her the way you like.

And... Come on... Is your wife tell her 'hey I want to try out new things...' in a sexy tone and gift her a sexual outfit for her to wear it for you for example... Or cosplay If you that kinda guys lol (roleplay)

 

When you do find that special lady, don't ever let this come between you. It's awesome you are putting in the work now. I just heard your future self say "thank you."