Managing Sexual Energy

I struggle with the same issues - what to do once sexual energy hits a certain point to where it begins to disrupt things. You need to be prepared in advance for what you will do during those times. Prepare now while it's manageable. I play music - but also, if I need it I will play various games that are visually stimulating. The intense auditory and visual stimulation will flush out the fantasies. The key is to provide some form of sensory overload.

Here is the main thing though, and you will see me bring it up often - your belief system is critical. Do you believe that you can maintain once desire reaches a certain point of intensity? Do you fear that you will always fail at a certain point if sexual energy becomes too great? Do you believe you are capable of self-control at these times? If you don't believe that you can do it you will fail. You must make up your mind that this is something that you can do. The forum gives you plenty of examples that it can be done and it helps you to reframe how you view these sexual issues.

Also, don't do the things that cause desire to become intense; the different forms of edging and peeking are the main areas. This will make it almost impossible to maintain long-term.

 

Very recognizable post to me.

Last few days have been easy.. but it got more difficult after a few weeks, got really 'itchy'/sensitive down there. I do believe that we have to transmute that energy. On the other hand i also like the idea that the body is doing fine, but that its more a battle of the mind. However, possible solutions might be: breathwork, excersise, meditation, clean mindset, right understanding, clean diet, working on life goals, socializing, non attachment, mainly it i think..

 

I utterly sympathize with Inutterclarity. I can go a while......but eventually my body conspires to induce ejaculation via various forms of horniness. This can be fantasies--which get stranger and more extreme the longer I go without ejaculation.

So I share in your desire to figure out HOW to move that energy into another part of my body that isn't sexual.

 

I feel you guys! I tried resetting over and over again just to fail. What I finally realized is that my horniness came from all those years of porn/jerking off (over 20 years) and for me, I had to tackle that first. So i went without porn for a year and lowered my jerk off rate from 3-4 times a day to 4-5 times a week. Slowly but surely I got less horny because I didn't have all those images/fantasies. Now don't get me wrong, I was still horny but could manage it more. By month 11, I was down to 1-2 jerk-offs a week and I felt I had enough willpower to go 90 days without orgasm. An interesting thing that has helped me is meditating/breathing. You see, I was never able to do either because my mind was preoccupied with sex but then I found the Wim Hof method (iceman) and everything changed (check him out on YouTube) His breathing technique clears my mind, gives me energy and helps move that sexual energy around. It helps me focus and I do it every single day. I'm now on day 38 of my reset and couldn't be happier. More energy, better concentration, testosterone is up and I'm glowing. My wife couldn't be happier, she's seen a huge difference in my mood/personality/life. Anywhooo, I kinda rambled on. Hope this helps.
PS:Never give up!

 

Are you regularly circulating your sexual energy DAILY? That really can help a lot.

The fact you ejaculated means your energy is off-balance.

Have you noticed that after you work out heavy, your sexual energy is gone? Why? It’s transmuted into physical energy for lifting.

So. Do multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms daily. Learn how to do it till your internal sexual energy is balanced daily.

Balancing energy is a daily thing. Stop balancing more once it's balanced.

I learned how to do chakric orgasm. You meditate on orange "energy" ball on your penis in your mind. It balanced my sexual energy very well.

Good Luck my brother!

 

Helps a lot if u pause and meditate every day especially when the energy is high. Meditate and plan out how u are going to use it. Allow the breathing to disperse the built up feeling. Have some mindfulness in regards to what u are going to do with that energy today and alternatives if that does not work out.

 

I try to follow the breath in meditation more and more. However, over the weekend with all the Thanksgiving treats, rather disruptive digestion going on.

 

Im on week 3 and with each passing day i become more confident that i can do this. If can go 4 weeks it will be a life long achievement.
I find myself subconsciously playing with myself less and less as the days roll on..
I think because im older then most here i am not experiencing that much sexual energy. Maybe i just dont have that much left in me. Just the same im calling it a blessing because it seems to be a big issue with some...high sexual energy.

 

This is always my problem. The sexual energy eventually turns into this cyclone of intrusive thoughts that take over my whole body, seemingly, and make me want to go fucking literally INSANEEEEEE. Then I just give up in order to stop the madness. Then It usually continues after I slip and I binge because my will gets completely eroded. Ive already PMO'd three times today and I just feel horrible

 

It will get better. I hear ya on that energy and trying to manage it. I am going to try and stay out of the house those days or keep real busy.

 

For me it can be pretty fucked because it doesn't usually happen until right when I going to sleep. Ill have a majorly productive day and be all good and then Im just laying there and getting bombarded at the end of the day.

 

Practice meditation to learn to clear your thoughts, it will help greatly. You can work with sex withought ejaculating to help heal your brain. This was practiced in Asia for health benefits. Called coitus reservatus.

 

I struggle with exactly the same thing brother. I have watched some of Mantak Chia's videos on Youtube. If I understand him correctly, the Daoist wisdom he teaches specifies an ideal number of days to go in between ejaculations. The ideal number of days is based on your age.

This makes intuitive sense to me. In my opinion, the ideas of complete long-term abstinence or total hard mode are counter to our biological nature. Knowing that you have a certain day that you allow yourself a sexual release gives you a light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm trying to follow his teachings. I'm abstaining from P and M. My age is 37. The number of days I go between ejaculations is 12. Days 6-12 are rough. The hardest are days 7 & 8. I get my release on the prescribed day from a woman's hand. I hope soon to be able to have frequent non-ejaculatory sex with a woman, and have an ejaculation on the prescribed day, but that's not possible for me at this time. Hope this helps.

 

Nighttime is the worst right! I actually try salt baths which help make me more relaxed.