Male 40 yo Christian from Italy seeks AP

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by RobertoC, Aug 11, 2017 at 11:54 PM.

  1. RobertoC

    RobertoC New Fapstronaut

    Good Morning,

    I'm 40 years old, with two children, from Italy.
    I'm looking someone to share this road to become a free man, share ideas, thoughts and be supportive when crisis knock the door.
    It's the second time i try to become sober.
    Thanks in advance.
  2. Esteban

    Esteban Fapstronaut

    Ciao Roberto !
    Come sta ?

    My Italian is rusty.
    I am a 24 years old Reformed Christian from France.

    Please send me a message and we can talk about anything you want.

    I am here to help. I have been called to outreach people on this website after God saved me from PMO 3 months ago.

    God bless you !

    In Jesus Christ.
  3. RobertoC

    RobertoC New Fapstronaut

    Hi Esteban,

    Thank you very much for your help. I'm also not very fluent in english but we can understand each other i think.
    I have been involved with pmo from many years ago, with diverse intensity in each period. Last year i was near to reach one year away of porn, then i fell again in the hole.
    Sometimes when i'm playing with my kids i shame myself, i feel dirty inside.
    I know the one thing that can lead to freedom is to build new habits, that can substitute the old habit of watching porn.
    I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
    Have a nice day
  4. Esteban

    Esteban Fapstronaut

    Hey brother Roberto, my real name is Adrian so you can call me Adriano I suppose :p

    I used to be addicted to PMO for over 10 years.
    And then God made his existence known to me and saved me from all my idols including PMO.
    It happened 87 days ago and now I know I am free forever.
    I tried to quit several times 2 years ago but it could not work because I had no faith, I had no will.
    Now my will is to obey my Father in Heaven, thus I cannot lust. I don't want to lust.
    If you want I can share my full testimony with you.

    I am here to help people, I am not here for me. I have been sent to preach the good news of the gospel and the power of it. The love of Jesus Christ can save anyone from P.
    If you love God you'll be healed from this.
    it is a matter of how much you love god and ho much are you willing to deny yourself.
    You should read John 4 and the story of Jesus with the Samaritan woman. And think about how her sin relates to PMO and how Jesus talking about Living Water and thirst is exactly about putting your satisfaction into earthly things.

    God bless you !
  5. Adamj76

    Adamj76 Fapstronaut

    Hello! My name is Adam and I live in the US. I'm married Christian man with two kids, and I am 41 years old. I and am now putting forth a new effort in my daily struggle moreso than I ever have before. I'm also looking for an accountability partner, hopefully who is around my age and also a believer in Christ.
  6. Esteban

    Esteban Fapstronaut

    Hey Adam,
    I am young but hit me with a private message. I'd be glad to help you in any way I can.

    God bless you !
  7. RobertoC

    RobertoC New Fapstronaut

    Hi guys,

    I read the part of the bible where Jesus talks with the samaritan woman. It's fit very well in this case.
    I'd to listen your involvement with pmo Adriano. How you fall in pornography? Why?
    I think there's always a reason, and in my case it was i felt alone for many years.
    I was a man with no faith.
    Why are you sure i will not fall again? I quit for almost two years an then fall again.
    I think pornography is a silence drug, and millions of people are involved conciusly or unconciusly.
    It gives that due minutes of hapiness after your brain releases the dopamine and then you feelt empty inside.
    If you don't fight against it, tou can loose your entire life.
    This time I'll try with all my efforts to give up.
  8. Esteban

    Esteban Fapstronaut

    Usually I give y testimony in private but if it can edify people an make people turn from their ways to follow the good Lord then so be it.
    Let me start with this quote:

    “The only assurance I have that I was purchased to be holy, and will be perfected in holiness, is that I am pursuing holiness here and now. “

    It sums up Philippians 3:12-14

    (Part 1: Childhood => Teenager)

    During my childhood and early teenage years I learned more about Jesus, but I did not understand who God is and my condition of being a sinner. With time I became an agnostic.

    When I was 20, I started to question a lot of things about this world; the nature of reality, the purpose of life and the reasons for my existence. And I spend a lot of time studying theology, science and philosophy. I did extensive research on Christianity, Islam, atheism and Science. I have always had a great need for rationality and logic.

    At some point, I decided that Christianity was the worldview that made the most sense. I considered myself an evangelical Christian and we could say that I had the right beliefs when it comes to the core Christian doctrines like the nature of God, or the salvation by grace alone through faith.

    This kept on being that way until I moved to Germany, when I experienced a spiritual awakening. Little did I know, that I would encounter Christ on the 20th of May, 3 months ago.

    (Part 2: The addiction)

    But first, I want to add some details to my story. Before my spiritual birth, I had been addicted to lust since I was about 13 years old, so about 10 years. I spent half of my life yielding to my own desires and destroying myself. To put it bluntly I was addicted to pornography. There were some periods when I tried to quit but without success. I always felt ashamed and guilty of not living up to God's word and moral standard. I knew that what I did was wrong. And only for a few seconds of satisfaction.

    Time and time again I fell into this dark pit of shame and guilt and the longstanding depression that comes with it. My soul cried out for liberation from this enslavement.

    (Part 3: Conversion to Christ)

    Then one day everything changed. I must say that at first, I did not fully understand what had happened. It is only now by looking back that I realize a miracle took place.

    I was filled by an overwhelming presence. I felt a burden was being taken away from me and replaced by a blissful feeling of joy and serenity. My state of depression lessened. I realized that my belief in God was only intellectual. I had never been a child of God and that I had lived a sinful life. I had been a slave of sin and my belief that I was a Christian had been a deception, for I wasn’t born again. This verse stood out to me, 1 John 3:9:

    Those who have been born of God do not make a practice of sinning, because God's life is in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God.

    This very day, I had a veil removed from my eyes and I could see for the first time the extent of my condition of sinful creature who had fallen short of the glory of God

    I was also addicted to video games, movies and internet. God freed me from those idols as well. He destroyed my resistance to his Spirit. I gave myself up entirely to Him. I recognized Him as my Lord and my Savior who loved me and cared about me. God was gracious to me and lifted me up. God broke me into pieces and made me a new man, fortified in spirit by his mighty grace.

    The following month, every day was a blessing from God and I could see his works in all parts of my life. I also started to pray diligently and regularly which I wasn’t doing before. Though I’m young in faith, I feel so secured in Christ and whole-heartedly believe in him. I’m looking forward to experience further blessings from God and to follow where He leads me on a daily basis. Now the research and reading on theological issues that I did in the past has become a useful tool and pillar of my faith.

    Now this may sound like I am lacking discernment on what happened, that I am wishfully thinking something happened based on my feelings. Thus I would ask, how could I explain that in just one day all the cravings and urges to fulfil my fleshly desires suddenly stopped and everything changed, without me doing anything? For indeed, I did nothing to change anything.

    How come all the things I once hold dear now seemed like garbage to me? I can only say it was a miracle. I was dead in sin and could not even seek God. Only when God mercifully and graciously renewed my spirit I was able to seek His face.

    Since that day, God has been protecting me from temptation. Really, I didn’t have to struggle a lot. This is truly amazing and surprising. Imagine you want to stop smoking, would that be so easy? Pornography is a drug and I was healed from it without any withdrawal. The way I view women has also changed for the better.

    Of course, I still sin, but by the grace of God I have not indulged in lustful activities, I have been completely free of this addiction for 80 days. Yet I deny myself daily to follow the Lord completely, in body and spirit. God made me His new creature that doesn’t want and cannot even consider going back to this state of slavery.

    (Part 4: Hope and encouragement)

    God considers us victorious when we resist to the devil. We can be victorious. With every victory our faith gets stronger and we learn to appreciate our sanctification. Sinful thoughts are not from us, but from Satan. If we live according to the spirit and follow the path of righteousness, like Christ, we will win over death

    When I get sinful thoughts, I instantly think about Jesus and He takes it away from me. Sometimes, this is pretty hard. But Christ is in me and I remember his sacrifice on the cross, how could I betray Him? So I resist the temptation and FIND REFUGE IN CHRIST! The Lord will protect me.

    I also asked myself why God let me dwell in my own despair and allowed this sin to destroy me and corrupt me for so long. I said that I had never genuinely repented, and this is true. But I also think God lets us go through difficulties and tribulations in our lives to teach us things and discipline us.

    2 Peter 3:9 says

    The Lord is not slow to fulfill His promise as some understand slowness, but is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

    And there are two things I learned among plenty of others: FIND ALL YOUR SATISFACTION IN GOD ONLY and BE HUMBLE. God taught me this. And it took 10 years for me to learn.

    I hope that my testimony may be of use for people to think really hard.

    Let us look into ourselves, do we have a mind set on the flesh or a mind set on the Spirit?

    The quote I gave at the beginning shoul make more sense now.

    “The only assurance I have that I was purchased to be holy, and will be perfected in holiness, is that I am pursuing holiness here and now. “

    This is my assurance. I am pursuing holiness. I am praying for holiness. I am walking the path of righteousness. And all of this is not of my own doing but because by the blood of my risen Savior. I have been made new, I have been redeemed. I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20

    Exodus 20:14 says we shall not commit adultery, it is the seventh commandment. Jesus also said “that every one that looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28)

    1 John 2:15

    Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.

    Romans 12:2

    Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.

    "I can do all this through him who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:13)

    Luke 9:23 or Matthew 16:24

    And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.

    Galatians 2:20

    I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

    Ésaïe 25:8

    “The only assurance I have that I was purchased to be holy, and will be perfected in holiness, is that I am pursuing holiness here and now. “

    2 Corinthians 13:5, ‘Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?”

    Put your satisfaction in Christ alone!

    Psalm 37:4

    Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

    Persevere in faith for the Lord is patient.

    Romans 12:12

    Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

    Romans 5:3-4

    Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope,

    James 1:2-4

    Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

    2 Peter 3:9

    The Lord is not slow to fulfill His promise as some understand slowness, but is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

    Genesis 39:12

    "She caught him by his cloak and said, “Come to bed with me!” But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

    1 Corinthians 6:18 echoes this pretty well.

    “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”

    And also

    “Keep your way far from her,

    and do not go near the door of her house,

    lest you give your honor to others

    and your years to the merciless,

    lest strangers take their fill of your strength,

    and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,

    and at the end of your life you groan,

    when your flesh and body are consumed,”

    Proverbs 5:8-11

    Always be vigilant and FIND REFUGE IN CHRIST

    1 Peter 5:7-10

    “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

    Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.

    Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.

    In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation.”

    May you find peace, at last, in Jesus Christ our Savior and our great God!
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  9. RobertoC

    RobertoC New Fapstronaut

    Hi Esteban,
    I read carefully your post. I want to thank yo for your time and dedication you give to us.
    Actually i'm on holidays, i take a day or to think everything you told me.
    Thanks again brother.

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