Long time without sex. Afraid of dysfunction

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by racc00n, Mar 26, 2019.

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  1. racc00n

    racc00n Fapstronaut

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    Hello lads,

    I am not sure if my post belongs to this category. I havent had sex for 3 years +something more. The reason was low confidence because of weight gain and loss of interest because of psychiatric meds. Now i have quit the meds and losing weight gradually, but my self esteem and confidence doesnt seem to improve at all. I still feel i dont exist as a male. I had two rejections within 2019, one of them from my crush. I reached a point where i believe i wont be functional next time i have sex.

    Question #1) Is it true that the more you go without sex the more the risk of dysfunction goes up ?? If yes, how can i get over this fear and set the risk to zero?

    Question #2) I have another issue regarding staying friends and handling my obsession with my crush who rejected me. Which category should i post my story to ?

    Many thanks in advance
     
  2. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    I would think this is a proper place for your post. I also believe the more you go without sex your body builds up semen and you should have less dysfunction when you are ready to have sex. Don't put yourself down that you were turned down from your crush, at least you tried and are not just thinking about asking her. It's her loss and you will find someone more suitable for you. I do believe this addiction is also a lot more successful on us that have SO's that are there for us in every way, sexually and helping us get through PMOing. Good luck to you.
     
  3. racc00n

    racc00n Fapstronaut

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    I want to believe that too, but my feelings haven't gone away. I behave like a friend in front of her and online, but my heart is broken. Will i get over it once i have sex again and accept the friendship with my crush?? Or should i cut contact with her? I just cant take the thought of her having sex with one of my friends, even though she doesnt speak with my friends, im just paranoid. Dead end mate :/
     
  4. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    You probably always think about her even when you find someone that wants you in her life and you have sex with. It will just take time to get over the crush, but probably will be a healthy decision for you.
     
  5. MakesLifeGood

    MakesLifeGood New Fapstronaut

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    Hello there! I think the more you abstain, you got better in bed.. Because your libido goes sky high. But if you are on the flat line there is a chance of failing, but its ok it goes away within a week or two
     
  6. racc00n

    racc00n Fapstronaut

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    Yes, i agree but you must be on nofap as you abstain. If you play every day its like having rough porn-like sex, a bit unrealistic in my opinion. As for the flatline, i dont believe it exists. Even if it doesnt go up every morning, it will be fine when the time for the game comes ;)

    Yes it will take time for the pain to go away, but the pain if i stay "friends" with her, the pain of the friendzone will never go away. I was having shivers tachycardia and bouts of crying over the rejection, for the past 2 months ive been very unstable. I will meet with her one last time to give her a helmet she forgot at my place and then i will disappear from Viber. When she asks whats going on i will tell her the truth. All i need now is the strength to handle the meeting and be friendly even though i dont feel like a friend of hers.
     

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