Lonely - Feeling Depressed

Hey, I can relate. I'm 18 and just got back from my first semester in college. I turned to PMO occasionally before then, but after I was at college I felt lonely and depressed and PMO became a daily routine. I want a significant other, as I've watched countless friends get with someone and seem so happy. But don't think you'll never find a girl. My friend always said, "every one of your ancestors got laid, you'll find someone too." You're 16, most relationships at that age aren't even that valuable, so don't fret. Just hold strong. You can make it on your own. A significant other isn't meant to complete you, but to be an addition.

Now I'll tell you a story about what not to do. There was a girl in my grade who I liked, a lot. She was extremely smart and caring, and of course, good looking. As my senior year came to a close I contemplated asking her to prom. I never had the guts to do it. I instead took this friend of my friend's date and had a miserable time. Basically, if you're alone right now and there's no one you are interested in, don't rush it. But if there's someone you like, take the risk. Regret is the worst emotion, and I have a lot of it.

 

Man I can relate to you guys because when I was your age all I could think of was girls and when I can fuck again. But I can tell you I'm 35 and have had sex with over 80+ girls I am now taking a vow of celibacy and really realized how much time and energy I wasted over girls and sex.

If your goal is fulfillment and happiness you are not going to find it in sex with a girl. It only adds more drama and in harmony to your life.

Sex is part of the illusion of this world. It is the highest pleasure we can get and like all others, it is empty and meaningless. a few moments of pleasant sensations follow with years of misery and pain.

In many ways, sex is no different than PMO in some ways more dangerous.

The very neediness to want to have sex so bad is the very thing that is keeping you from it.

If I could go back to my old self I would suggest stop chasing temporarily pleasures and seek self-realization as your highest goal

But I know this advice doesn't really speak to you , so as a concession I suggest study how to become an attractive confident man. There are so many good courses on this - check out RSD nation - or teachings of David Data - how to be a superior man.

 

Hey man im 16 going on 17 so i can fully relate to you. My porn addiction took off last year in 10th grade. I had no friends and used porn as an excape from my loneliness. I finally decided to quit when i realized that i could not go one without fapping. Now im determined to quit forever and never look back. But anyway about your "ill never get a girlfriend" thoughts. I feel the same damn way man. Every girl in my school is promiscuous and just want a girl that loves me for me not my arms or abs or whatever girls look at. I just had a girlfriend a few months ago and my life was great. But she cheated on me with her ex whos an 8th grader. Still dont get why shes dating a 13 year old when shes 16 (a little weird if you ask me). So honestly bro i wouldnt date in high school unless you really found someone you know is not gonna hurt you. We all have long lives ahead of us man, i know you will find someone. Good luck man.

 

Uh, what?! That's crazy talk!

When I told a female friend that same thing, many years ago, she said, "There's a lid for every pot." I did get girlfriends, and married, had kids, got divorced…

You are so young! Don't rush it. Childhood has a reason and a function. Age 15 really is too young. It will come when the time is right.

Keep at your NoFap. It's the best choice that you can make right now.