Loneliness

I think that the main reason for your loneliness is staying away from your family.
Talk to your kids, ask them how was their day and you will see there is a change in your life..
Remember , You are the reason for your own mess,,... Don't try to put blame on others for your mistakes.
Please from now onwards don't give any damn chance of excuse and live the life you want.
Life is too short...Be happy man.

 

You have have a wife and two children and you still are not happy. Until you learn to appreciate what you do have, you will not be happy with new. PMO has this nasty habit of lying to us and making us believe that everything is about us... it's not. Heal yourself, make peace with your family then determine what missing from your life.

 

Many people see flatlining as a bad thing but I don't. I see flatlining as a calm in the middle of continued storms of urges. This is a time when you can rest and refocus before the urge attacks resume because they will resume at some point.

Draw strength during this this time.

 

Hey I am significantly younger and so likely much less experienced than you, but I would be happy to share my nofap experience and success with you in an attempt to provide support and motivation. I am 17 years old and have still never been with a girl. I struggled with social anxiety and porn addiction for a couple years prior to finding solace within myself through nofap. I implemented a lot of self betterment strategies into my life and have become an entirely new person. Most notably I have lost 70 lbs, am currently on day 148 of a hardcore no pmo streak and still going strong, as well as working up the courage to ask out my dream girl in the near future. The skills and mindset nofap has bestowed upon me are applicable to many of the facets of everyday life, and nofap is the key, or at least a piece of the puzzle, you need to attain in order to get to where you want to be at this stage in your life.

You will need to face your inner demons and purge the farthest reaches of your subconscious mind, but you will reach heights previously unimagined if you perservere through no PMO. The earliest stages are always the most difficult, but as soon as you get more and more time under your belt its smooth sailing. I want to emphasize the importance of viewing nofap not as a challenge or number of days, but as a permanent lifestyle change. I have personally decided to abstain from sexual release until it is with someone whom I love and care about to increase my motivation, and it has definitely worked because now I find myself interacting smoothly with girls, something I never even considered doing in the past.

I will not pretend that I have been where you are now, however I think the potency of nofap is strong enough to allow you to overcome your current situation and I strongly recommend doing everything you can to get through those first couple of weeks. It sounds like you have been adapting self betterment strategies in your life already as you mentioned in your initial post. This is great, as it means you have already taken the first and most crucial step towards achieving your goals i.e. identifying the problem and deciding to change.

I gurantee you that if you are honest with yourself and keep practicing methods of self discipline patiently, and persistently, things will get much better. You may not get the results you want as quickly as you want but never stop trying it will happen and the switch will flip eventually. I personally doubted myself at times but farther in the results started to pick up fast and served to further my motivation. You might experience trial and error at times, but consitency is key.

Sorry this post is so long I just want you to know that you are not alone and you are on the right track to achieving greatness. I have implemented diet, exercise, and nofap into my life and it has been extremely beneficial and has set the prescedent for the fufilling life I want to live. Keep doing what your doing, if you falter pick yourself up and keep on going. All these positive changes you are making will make the difference in the long run. Patience. Discipline. Determination. Simplicity. Keep your body strong and your mind stronger and if your going through hell, keep on going. Best of luck.

 

Very wise and very well said.