Loneliness is the reason for my relapse mostly everytime

Nekkhamma · Apr 24, 2018

Scorpio1995 said: ↑

Porn is a way for me to feel falsely connected to someone. I am single, and in the past I have misused sex as a way to feel connected with someone. Now that I'm not in a relationship, porn and masturbation is the way I deal with my feelings of loneliness. I don't want to use porn for this reason anymore. I want to grow up and find a connection with another human being that isn't based solely on sex. Any advice out there??
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Never give up

Nekkhamma · Apr 24, 2018

Roady said: ↑

I guess you was already lonely before you start using PMO as a coping mechanism.
Stopping PMO will show you the old loneliness. Now you have to deal with it.
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Right my friend! It's a symptom of an underlying problem: we don't know how to deal with lust, pain, being uncomfortable, relationships (sexual and otherwise), etc. We need to learn a new way to be, new behaviors, new ways to cope with lust, urges, stress

Scorpio1995 · Apr 25, 2018

Amen to that! PMO is basically just a band-aid for feelings of loneliness that have always been there. That's why I am quitting.

Deleted Account · Apr 25, 2018

oneaffidavit said: ↑

Let me share something I experienced just 2 days back. I was also on same boat as you.

So, couple of days back, I went for walking at night within the apartment walls (its big space). I had negative thoughts like "it is too late, why go at this time? people may looks at me weird way".

I finally put on my shoes and went outside and started walking. I brought my earphones and phone to listen to music. Believe it or not, I met 4 people who were too busy and walking at night as they find no time. They introduced themselves and we started talking. I did not ue my earphones even for a minute. Without realizing it was more than 60 minutes. It didn't feel like an hour at all.

Just in few hours, I met 4 new people without even realizing. That's how you meet people OP. Go outside and try.

If you sit at home, you are never going to meet anyone OP. Take a gym membership or club membership or go to community places where you can meet plenty of people. You can even go to place of worship to pray to god and meet people there. You can go to a nice library to read books to make yourself busy. You can also participate in various events taking place around the city.
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I can walk for 10 hours and never meet anyone, i think this can work only in america.

Deleted Account · Apr 25, 2018

j_pwc_bat said: ↑

8 days is very good -- your 1st week!

Great and honest question by OP -- by the way, OP is a Female.

I hear you. Looks like good advice so far: get out and mingle....... gym........ church....... groups
with similar hobbies you enjoy. Remembering to 'assist' that decision based on your personality (people person, laid back, thinker-quiet, emotional), schedule, etc.
Since you are a woman, talking to your girlfriends, and other women you
like for hours during the day is very normal, venting and relational.
Also Free Dating websites in your country.
How would you advise your best friend?

Life is a challenge -- one day at a time.

Free tips for Success:

1. You literally don't have to watch porn ever again. (self.NoFap)
submitted 2 years ago by BazookaMorpheus88 Days

2. When PMO is not even an option (self.NoFap)
submitted 3 years ago * by Kestral 233 days
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2dw0al/when_pmo_is_not_even_an_option/

3. Google: "The pain of self-discipline [4] is far less than the pain of regret [8]" ..... Find an image you like......... and save it onto your computer or phone. (Ex: Go outside and get some fresh air. Temptations usually last only 10-20 minutes.)

4. Daily or Weekly Rewards -- treats or dessert (for good behavior); or buy something related to a hobby you really enjoy; listen to your favorite songs, etc.

5. Some guy on line had this great advice: " Never touch your dick……[or female parts for women]."
Tip……. when showering use a wash cloth

6. Humor ....... Google: "Glad you could join me Mr. Bond". Funny, somewhat possessed toddler............... Anyone know the Villain the toddler is supposed to represent?

7. Click on the NoFap "Emergency" button and find an image you like. Keep the image in an open window on your computer or phone (positive influence on your mind….. and behavior): http://i.imgur.com/bbWSvJx.jpg

BONUS I -- Fasting can help you have more self control; and has many health benefits. You can skip meals; or entire days -- your choice. If you skip breakfast, you can use GREEN TEA (WITH CAFFEINE) as a low cost, mild, healthy stimulant that gives you energy.

BONUS II -- Go to NoFap.com…………….. Encourage or give others Advice [gets the focus off of ourselves and on onto others]. Works very Good.

Good luck
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When showering use wash cloth, unhealthy.

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