Let's Hope I Stick to This Boundary

My situation exactly. A couple weeks after Discovery, I told him that I was tired of being the one to always initiate. And given how betrayed I felt and how numb I felt I would not be initiating. And that if does not initiate I don’t see how we could rebuild. After that he became much better for a couple weeks. Although I feel like these last week he has kind of slipped back into normal behavior. With the exception of groping me playfully. (Which I do like—man he had me starved for so long.) But he’s not volunteering “I love you.” And he’s slipped back into not giving compliments.

I tell him very clearly what I want such as intimacy exercises (sharing feelings/praises) and him writing in a journal if we don’t spend time talking about recovery that day.... but he doesn’t really take initiative. I still feel like I’m the one prompting continually. Maybe I give it a week of taking my hands off the wheel and if he doesn’t take initiative of his own, do some consequence? Ahh this is so much work. Emotionally exhausting.

 

Oh Ghost,

That resonated way more than I would have ever expected from a man in granny drag. But for real, that had some solid gold nuggets and I’m glad I stumbled upon it. Thanks for sharing!