Late to the Forums: Addict in Remission

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by RemittedHermit, May 17, 2019.

  1. RemittedHermit

    RemittedHermit Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys,

    It's my 42nd day of no PMO. I've had some streaks in the past that lasted at most two weeks. I was addicted to porn since I was about 15. I was in denial about how addicted I was. When I tried dating girls, I noticed things weren't working out. My addiction had changed my perceptions of reality.

    I was severly depressed for several years. During recovery from a breakdown I realised I had a problem with porn. Even on anti-depressants which had effectively killed my sex drive, I was turning to porn. I didn't need PMO but I was using it to cope. It was making me unproductive and feel like shit.

    When I wanted to make a change I turned to a solution that seemed to be working for so many others. So I began NoFap and now I'm here. I'm here because I was tempted and was considering relapse. Feel free to ask questions.

    Peace, peace :)
     
    Last edited: May 17, 2019
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  2. 220woof671

    220woof671 Fapstronaut

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    Wow -- 42 Days of No PMO is Very Good !!!!!!!

    Here's some ways to deal with temptations:

    Benefits of No PMO:

    1. No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easier to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-2 seconds.
    2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
    3. No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
    4. Increased motivation to get things done.
    5. More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
    6. No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
    7. More time for good/productive things. Not wasting time going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.
    8. Women/men increasingly become less of a priority or need.
    9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
    10. More Respectable -- (online comment) "if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
    10. Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness

    *Not all days are wonderful. Somedays are so-so ...… many are common... some are difficult due to "flat line"... But who wants to go backwards -- to weakness, shame and disrespecting yourself, etc.?
    Y-o-u can change! Y-o-u are 100% in control. Y-o-u call the shots!


    Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations:

    #1 Secret = Get Off Your Heineken and Go Outside [temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with women (or men for females) 6- Go to store and buy yourself a reward/gift/treat (small daily; medium weekly; large monthly) 7- Do your favorite hobby 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9- Go walk a wonderful dog "Woof!" 10 - Have a "WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Take a break; take a nap (remind yourself that you are 100% in control and 100% responsible for your behavior-actions) 13- All Things Are Possible 14 - One day at a time 15 - Positive personal hygiene (brush teeth; shower) keeps your self-esteem high 16 - Fasting (water only) has many health benefits; a 1/2 day or more fast will help you have more self control

    A great way to have SUCCESS over urges or temptations is to make a quick LIST OF GOALS and OPTIONS. (Just make a quick list -- you can add to it later.) Then read the GOALS and OPTIONS when you are tempted. (I made a simple list the first week -- now it's a habit -- like a memory.) In a sense, you want to 'hold a knife' to the throat [carotid artery -- side of neck] of your 'feelings.' You are the boss -- you tell them what to do. If your 'feelings' disagree with your goals (No PMO, self respect, power) -- tell your 'feelings' where to go. You can call your list: STUD LIST, SPECIAL FORCES LIST, LIST OF OPTIONS, etc. (whatever works for you.)

    APPLICATION = SUCCESS !!!!!!!
     

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