Ladies would you marry your porn addict husband again if you could do it all over?

I’m in a relationship with someone that doesn’t want to admit it but my gut tells me he does. Sex has dramatically decreased. It’s hard because I’m in love with him and he has an overflowing amount of qualities. So do I ignore it? Will it get worse? Maybe he’s not doing it? Do all men do it? How do you know your in a relationship with one?

 

it's horrible isn't it. i just found an oppunitunty to bring it up but he'd already kind of mentioned it and i hadn't realised how big of an issue it was at the time or that it's linked to de and ed that he's always had with me. he admits Porn is bad for him and us but not that it's affected his ability to have sex how he or i want. I'm thinking of geting counselling maybe as a couple.

 

from experience it won't go away and i wouldn't ignore it as sex is a big deal. been in a sexless relationship before and it was horrible.

 

It won't go away and will likely get worse as time goes on. Don't ignore it. It may leak into other areas of your relationship over time. Looking back now I can see all the areas it has affected but at the time I was lost as to what was wrong, what was going on. But if he will not be honest and talk with you there isn't much you can do. It is a very hard spot to be in but you should really think about what is important to you. What you can and can not live with in our relationship. It is hard and draining and only gets worse at time goes on if it is not brought out into the open and dealt with.
As for 'do all men do it?'. I don't believe in absolutes. Some do, so do not. Even with all the similarities every person and relationship is an individual.

 

As a former PA and currently engaged, idk how you can marry someone you can’t trust. If he’s willing to be completely honest then there’s a lot of hope, but that honesty is so key to the healing. From Every Man’s Battle: ”finding out your husband has secretly hidden a porn addiction is like finding out termites have eaten away the foundation of your house.”

I think if he’s able to be completely honest and is willing to do whatever it takes to recover, and he DEMONSTRATES that, you could have plenty of hope for a healthy marriage.

 

no definitely not