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Knocked me down and I can't get back up

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Watchmychops, Apr 12, 2014.

  1. Watchmychops

    Watchmychops Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone

    one thing I've learnt from doing the challenge is that you can never trust yourself with fighting your own addiction.

    basically I PMO'd today after a week of no fapping. its the longest I've ever gone without masturbation and I thought I had it all together.. turns out the smallest things can trigger off a chain reaction to make you fall back into the habit of fapping again.

    I've had a serious porn addiction almost half of my life on a regular basis, so it's become a big problem for me in my social life and personal life. this week has been really long and It felt like an eternity since I last fapped, really drawn out.

    It was simply the image of a half naked woman that came up on my facebook feed and as I was at home on my own it was very tempting to fap.

    I edged many times, even tried closing the porn down and tried reading something to keep my mind occupied, but after an hour or so I couldn't hold myself and eventually gave in completely.

    the worst part is I thought I had everything under control from day one till today, but no matter how hard I tried I couldn't hold myself back. it's really knocked my confident down because now I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to resist the small temptations in the future let alone the bigger ones.

    How does everyone deal with triggers when they come? what do you do to control yourself when that happens?

    by the way I'm a new member to Nofap so I might of missed a technique or something that could help me deal with this.

    thanks x
     
  2. MelancholyWeightlifter

    MelancholyWeightlifter Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    I'm sorry to hear you relapsed. Please though, do not give up! Triggers can be difficult, and I think we each deal with them in our own way. It seems usually triggers will start a chain reaction leading to more and more extreme fantasizing until relapse. The key is to immediately end those thoughts and clear your mind. I will literally visualize the perverted images leaving my mind, I will conscious scrub my mind.

    If that's not enough, PHYSICALLY REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE SITUATION. If you were triggered on the computer, leave the computer. Go for a walk, go to the store, do dishes, do push ups, anything to just leave the place you are.

    Also, may I ask where you saw the half naked woman? I would highly suggest getting adblock, which will get rid of any lewd advertisements. If it came from some friend or page you "liked". I suggest you block it from your feed.

    The key is you need to take immediate, drastic steps. Not half-hearted, weak-willed, "I'm just delaying a relapse and I know it" steps.
     
  3. one32

    one32 Fapstronaut

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    Exactly what MWL said.

    Don't take half measures with temptation. It will show you no mercy.
     
  4. iwanttobemyoldselfagain

    iwanttobemyoldselfagain Fapstronaut

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    I am in the same boat as you are, but now I have an even greater desire to quit PMO. believe me, you can do it too. Whenever you feel the urge, what might help ia thinking about nofap and how everyone here has faith in you and how they are all rooting for you to quit this. You might not get this kind of support even from your own family, the kind that these strangers who know virtually nothing about you except your addiction give you. Ao id not for yourself, stop yourself for nofap. And if that doesn't help too, just don't be alone in your room or house and just sit with another person. Hope this helps
     

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