Karezza Experience

Hello!

My wife and I experimented with Karezza for the first time last night and it was wonderful! We both eventually achieved O and the prolonged nature of the experience was surprisingly powerful.

Afterwards, I felt content for the first time post-coitus. Maybe ever. Not longing more. Not thinking about the next time. Just feeling satisfied through and through. It was a really incredible thing to feel.

I'm wondering if couples who have integrated this technique do it all the time or if its something you throw into the mix every once and awhile? We loved it but it is a longer process and requires much more commitment to the moment by both partners.

 

We ended up going with a very uneducated approach to it. I brought it up to her a few days ago since we've been looking for an alternative to our last sex binge experience which proved to be very crippling to me mentally (happened around day 45).

I learned about the concept from here and didn't delve too deep into it yet, other than understanding the basic idea. We just went very slowly and had lots of non-genital body contact before PIV happened. Discussing it this morning we are both very happy with the experience and are now encouraged to research it more TOGETHER, which is something I never could have seen as a possibility before.

Yes, it was a bit uncomfortable for me to bring up as a suggestion. I almost felt a sense of preemptive guilt about bringing a sexual idea to the table during this process, fearing that she would assume its just a new mask my addiction was wearing. Also, it seemed kinda weird to say "Hey hunny, found this great technique where we're physical for longer and may not achieve O" Just kind of made me feel.... selfish?

After last night though (and mutual O) I can say there is nothing selfish about Karezza or the similar concept we attempted. In fact, its probably one of the most selfless experiences I've had in the bedroom.

 

Did you try to walk along the borderline of O or just stay in a more comfortable, safe place?

Congrats! That's one dream to strive for most certainly! It was interesting in that after my O, I had the composure & wherewithal to stay "poised and present" until she got there too. Definitely a welcome surprise!

 

Our successful experience was predicated on discussing this ahead of time and me sharing it as an intention I might like to try. Actually doing it was not planned but evolved from a moment watching a show together in bed a few days later.

@DemonSemen is totally correct in saying that its all about intimacy! Think of it more as a chance to feel your SO next to you, without the expectation or typical schedule/routine of sex. I don't mean to cause a trigger with this next comment but its really like a scenario where one partner would be blindfolded and the other exploring, except here there is no blindfold (physical or metaphorical) on either partner. In fact its quite the opposite!

 

This was definitely the toughest part! It was a great learning moment though to remove myself from my programmed sexual tendencies and see just how quick I was mentally jumping to O. Kinda felt like a kid struggling to not eat the brownie batter before taking the time to bake them.