I've been considering seeing a prostitute, is it a good idea?

Looking on that sites is a substitute of porn. Stop that. And no, you don't need to see any escort.

 

I’m in the same boat and I’m sure lots of others here are also.

I keep looking at the Risk-Reward Scale.

Risk: Risk of Disease, Risk of Arrest, Loss of hard earned money and nothing to show for it, Risk of Violence, Risk of starting another harmful addiction, Loss of Respect, Deep Feelings of Lonliness afterwards, and Loss of Confidence with real women.

Reward: A fraction of an hour of pleasure BUT that pleasure isn’t even guaranteed. Might not be a pleasurable experience.

The scales aren’t balanced in our favor!!!!!

 

It does not matter if you have girlfriend or not. You need to control yourself and not be ruled by sex. Please be aware that people with such problem can 'use' their partners to fulfill porn hunger exactly in the same way as escorts.

 

Wouldn't advise it as it can become just as addictive as porn. Only difference is that it will cost you a lot of money.

Why don't you join Tinder? From what I've been told it's nowhere near as reliable for hook ups as it was 2 or 3 years ago but there's always the possibility I suppose. If it's a confidence thing, get to the gym and get yourself into good shape! Picking up a combat sport of some kind always puts your self confidence through the roof e.g Bjj, boxing, muay thai, mma etc

Be well!

 

My coworker meet his wife through Tinder. Apparently there are people that go on there looking for LTR and not hook-ups.

I tried it briefly and there seems to be an incredible number of fake profiles. The whole online dating thing discourages me. I hear all the these people having success with it but I wonder how??? So many fake profiles.

I agree 100% about getting to the gym. I’ve also been getting into climbing and also going on trips out of town at least once a week for a regular change of scenery. For me it’s resulted in not only more confidence but a DECREASING desire to have a woman in my life. I’m realizing how free I am being single.

 

Just read this: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...ort-experience-now-my-heart-is-broken.184751/

There is nothing more to say.

 

Tinder can also be an addiction, like hunting girls and can feed your"Casanova",by the way I have been a wanker 3-4 times every day forr 33 years.On my day 6 ,I miss xhamster

 

Tinder is not a healthy way for rebooting. . its a porn substitute

 

Hmmmm I suppose it can be an addiction and a substitute. I was just thinking of ways for him to meet women, but perhaps Tinder isn't the best alternative lol.

Just need to do it the old fashioned way; 'Hey can I buy you a drink?'

 

I barely have any relationships with women either it sucks and frustrating but I know working on my social skills and improving myself is the better option to make that happen then throwing away my morals and self worth for empty sex and knowing more about myself since rebooting I know that going for an escort won’t change anything it will only feed the lust and shame my old self craved so personally I don’t think it’s a good idea

 

You don't want to do it. Trust me. I been there and lost a part of me while doing it. Now I'm finally getting my life back. I been with Escorts. They do it for the money. Maybe there is one who will like the sex but she wants money as well.But man please don't make the mistake I did. I can't undo the past but I'm sure going to change the future. And i want everyone to learn from my mistake. Don't see an escort. Its a double screwup. She is selling herself. And you are buying it. And she is in on it as well.
I have had fun with some woman. But it doesn't last at all. You can't put a time limit on how long you want to have fun like escorts do. Pls don't do it.

 

Keep off the sites. Don't even look or call them. Trust me.

 

I know I’m risking “beating a dead horse” but this brought a good thought to mind:

I used to check out the Nevada brothel sites, one specifically that I seriously considered.

Well that specific brothel also has a handful of YouTube videos of some of the women that work there.

My God! What a turn off those videos were for me.

The women in the videos looked worse than the pictures in the website. By worse I mean they were fatter and looked dog tired, weary, and empty. Even though they were smiling and even joking around in the videos they looked so hallow.

I don’t encourage anyone to do research on these brothels and escort services but for me the more I read up on that stuff the less interested I became.

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Also, there was an outstanding article about prostitutes years ago in the San Francisco Chronicle. It has always stuck in my mind after 20+ years. The biggest thing is how much those women hated men.

Think about it, your going to strip naked, let all your defenses down, and make yourself vulnerable to a person that wouldn’t mind seeing you killed. If she had the chance and could get away with it she’d do it herself.

I think that puts it all in a totally different light.

 

Sometimes the women don't look like their pics. And i could tell if they were ok or not by on the phone most of the time. When you are at home bored or whatever the case is and feeling tempted. Just don't. I would rather you fund something good like starving kids or your church or an animal shelter anything but that. Many times it goes to there motel or drugs. You want to make an impact for the better. Spend your earnings on something that will actually do something and it will feel good that you are helping someone in need. Blessed you will be.