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It's sad.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by RedPillRebooter, Jul 14, 2017.

  1. RedPillRebooter

    RedPillRebooter Fapstronaut

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    I'm 21 at my prime, I could get with any woman in the world yet on June 18th 2017 I decided to choose porn. Now I must start my entire reboot over again.

    To many times have I passed away potential gfs due to the social anxiety that PMO gives me. I could've realistically easily gotten with hundreds of women over the past 9 years I have been addicted to porn had I simply quit.

    Now I'm just a worthless, insignificant, nothing. I must rebuild...
     
  2. Well women should never be your goal in the first place.
     
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  3. scote73

    scote73 Fapstronaut

    You've started well with your rebuild by getting to a week without P or M. Believe me, that is not a worthless, insignificant thing. It is damn hard to make it a whole week when you're first getting started.

    While I tend to agree with the comment above me, I understand the pain that comes from constantly choosing porn over a real relationship. Believe in yourself, and this will cease to become a problem for you.
     
  4. jest

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    OP, I always see mixed posts from you, it's either you bragging about your accomplishments and that you can get any woman you want or something along these lines, feelings of worthlessness.

    You're going to be on both ends of the spectrum for as long as you have these somewhat narcissistic emotions. You have much to learn, you seem to overvalue your accomplishments which will lead to you giving too much importance to your downfalls.

    For as long as you keep this up and you don't work on your mind and on becoming more humble, you're going to struggle, hate yourself and you'll lack discipline.

    My advice to you is simple: stop taking yourself so seriously. You can love who you are for who you are and not for the amount of women you can be with. You relapsed, so what? It's a lesson, it'll pass and you'll become stronger. But for all that is sacred, work on becoming stronger emotionally and inside your head, stop focusing on your "achievements" and focus on the positive aspects that you were born with, develop them and master them.
     
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  5. Spiff

    Spiff Fapstronaut

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    I say these things in a friendly manner, hoping to be helpful -

    I agree with the above post. As long as you have such a high opinion of yourself when you fail it's going to be devastating. The higher you build yourself up the farther the fall to the ground.

    You had built yourself up on your 300 day streak - just a month ago you were talking down to me and a bunch of other people on this forum.

    Recognize that you're human, humans fail. Humans also overcome, but you need to have a clear understanding of the situation first.

    And set your sights on a worthier goal than sticking your dick in whatever girl is so desperate for attention she'll do anything with anybody. You'll just further build up your pride on these "conquests", only to realize sometime in the future that they are worthless. Then you'll be back where you are now.
     
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  6. RedPillRebooter

    RedPillRebooter Fapstronaut

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    I went from over 300 days to just 7 days. I lost my libido, I now have PIED, I have brain fog (can't focus like I used to), I have social anxiety (in the grocery store I couldn't walk straight due to anxiety), I am drained of energy, I am depressed.

    I am worthless and will be until I reach a significant amount of days now. I'm not looking for pity or sympathy, this is a place to put me down because I deserve it for relapsing.

    I don't even deserve to live.
    You can't understand the power I had before I relapsed. I feel like Germany did after they lost WW1, devastated and disgraced. I had so much energy, I could talk to anyone, everyone loved me. Now I'm just a quiet submissive weakling who can't get it up in real life. I won't be happy until at least day 100.
    If I don't take my reboot seriously then I'll relapse.
     
  7. Spiff

    Spiff Fapstronaut

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    Germany was the most responsible party for starting WW1. The Kaiser's martial pride led to the senseless deaths of 40 million people, and the disgrace of the German people. German martial, racial and national pride also directly lead to WW2, and the disgrace from that will last thousands of years.

    This is an example of what pride can do on the world theatre - I would argue that a similar thing happens in the theatre of our lives.

    Do it - quit again - I'll be the first one rooting for you to get to 100, and then 1000 days. I'm not trying to be patronizing - but I was an arrogant 21 year old too, and I didn't have a porn problem back then to knock me down. I didn't really see the world and life clearly until the world knocked me on my ass a few years ago.

    Use this setback as an opportunity for humility - then humbly conquer porn.
     
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