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Isn't NoFap just suppressing mans real needs?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ukmercenary, Mar 4, 2018.

  1. ukmercenary

    ukmercenary Fapstronaut

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    So I have been trying NoFap on and off now for about a year. I have a very stressful job that is very reactive and I'm often tired and stressed out by the end of the day.

    It's all too easy to view porn online for a short-term satisfaction.
    From what I understand NoFap seems to about trying to resist any temptation like Adam and Eve and the apple.

    I think the temptation is always going to be out there and as men, one of our sole purposes in life is to pass on our DNA.

    I tend to find with NoFap at work I can often get frustrated more.
    So what do most men do here to meet women do they wait for them to approach them?
    I am into Day Game as for me it's the only way to really meet attractive younger women. Don't talk to me about online dating!

    I've never really had a relationship and would like to at least try it, however, do guys on this form meet women and how does the oxymoron of NoFap and meeting women actually work?


    Cheers
    Me
     
  2. xeon1993

    xeon1993 Fapstronaut

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    I would rather say depending what your whole goal is. Every each have its own sight of this. For me personally, it is all about quitting this shit. Not quitting real physicality of two individuals.

    There is no suppression of mans needs, there is only suppression of self harm and unnatural behavior of PM. When man needs a release, he is determined to find a partner. Even if it is not happening on spot. If he doesn't find right on the way, he has a choice - easier way with instant kill of your needs and outer energy or the hard way - keep searching and showing how much your balls weight. Sooner or later, he will find one as it is matter of time, of course, if he doesn't kill his ultimate drive by P. It is all about drive = motivation towards your goal. At least, for me.

    Best regards
     
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  3. ukmercenary

    ukmercenary Fapstronaut

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    Yes, that does make a lot of sense actually. I do love running so if I can work that more into my life to control my stress at work that could help a lot thanks.
     
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  4. fapping while watching pixels is not passing on your DNA.

    Lots of people have overcome it. Especially when they realize it's a substitute for something else or getting in the way of real life.

    Sexual transmutation is a real thing it can be done and it has benefits.
    You say it's natural, our dna and so on but we also have rational minds to overcome temptation and to plan for the future, if people just 'did what they felt like' we'd never have a civilization.

    There is no oxymoron really - when you're slave to fapping, PMO then that's where you're putting all your energies- instead of going out in the real world, and even if you do go out in the real world you're draining your energy PMO'ing..

    Read the testimonials of guys here who were shy, withdrawn with PMO and after stopping became more assertive and more in touch with the real world.
     
  5. muterabbit

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    Women almost never approach. It can happen, but don’t wait for it. I haven’t tried it yet, but I’ve heard that Tinder is good for practicing flirting and arranging dates with local women. I won’t try to explain how it works because I don’t want to possibly mess you up, but you can Google it and get good information.

    What I’ve noticed come up over and over again with all my research into dating is that women are primarily attracted by confidence and humor, so work on those however you can. Also, be sure they know you’re interested in them romantically up front, or else you’re going to get a friend instead of a lover. If they’re not interested, don’t get mad. Just move on to someone else while learning from any mistakes you made.

    There is no oxymoron with NoFap and meeting women. Some guys go hardcore when they reboot and don’t even have sex, but I personally think that’s a bit silly. To each their own.
     
  6. xeon1993

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    Yeah, man, do your sports. Do whatever, what takes away your stress. The harder you train, the smoother chill your mindset has. That comes with bonus of confidence.

    Personally, there is no way I can watch someone straight in the eye, not feeling guilt or shame if 30 minutes earlier (or even days after), I have been releasing by myself. I think, for talking with girls, if you can't watch them straight in the eyes, you show how insecure you are. Plus - it's a way of you showing them how uninterested you are towards knowing them better.
     
  7. The Wrestler

    The Wrestler Fapstronaut

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    The key term here is short-term. Porn is a shortcut, a hijacking of the pleasure circuit in the brain - it's why we keep clicking and why it's so easy to get caught in the feedback loop: porn-masturbate-short term high-sad-porn-masturbate-short term high-sad. The short term gains of porn mask the deeper inner struggle, or numb oneself to dealing with reality.
    Maybe for some. For me it's about being the best me I can be, developing healthy relationships with others and myself.
    How is masturbating to a computer passing on your DNA?
    Ah-good point! This is where porn (or cigarettes or pot or coke or sugar or meth or...) sinks its hooks into you. That moment of orgasm makes you feel better - you haven't actually dealt with the problem, but you feel better. Then the frustration hits you again, and so you masturbate again, only this time your brain needs a stronger dose, so over time the porn you search gets kinkier or you spend significant amounts of time viewing porn and masturbating instead of going out and living.
    Yes, porn is a method for dealing with the frustrations of daily living. But it's a shit method. Find something better.
     
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  8. j_pwc_bat

    j_pwc_bat Fapstronaut

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    I checked DayGame website............ sounds interesting. Check on a hotty's situation during the day -- when you have time.

    Some thoughts:


    1. You ‘splained, “From what I understand NoFap seems to about trying to resist any temptation…”. I think it is more like redirecting yourself to healthy, positive, beneficial activities that you are proud of.

    3. Take a walk at lunch break… or go up & down some stair cases. Will help you look like a 'schtud-ninski' [German-Russian] for a hygienic and not very annoying lassie of your choice.

    3. You ‘splained, “how does the oxymoron of NoFap and meeting women actually work?” (Oxymoron- a phrase with two words in apparent contradiction)
    Good Question. NoFap will give the Motivation and Confidence to go talk with Any woman you like. Any time. Any where. As you day counter increases, your self- confidence, and “aura” of manliness will increase 1% per day. You will get Stronger in all ways 1% per day. 'I guarantee it.'

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