Is true friend ship gone ?

I've got true friends.

 

Yes. I have true friends too. However there is a touch of truth in your question.

I think when you look at the Internet there have been some big negative side effects to how people crave attention, how people seek instant gratification and how people are generally more interested in themselves than ever before.

You only have to look at facebook or instagram... how people post selfies everyday and watch the 'likes' come in with baited breath. How they consider their self worth in relation to such things.

It's a society of narcissists and because people are generally more selfish I imagine that as a by product friends are harder to come by. Thankfully my friends were all pre-internet.

 

Totally agree.
Social media has helped create a very "needy" society who needs to be approved with every action.
This is why I don't have any social media accounts, unless NoFap counts.
I have a small handful of friends because of this choice of lifestyle but in doing so my friends are close.

 

Look up conversational narcissism you might get a kick out of it

 

I have true friends as well. A small handful of trusted allies and most go back to my childhood. I've made a few of them during my teens but haven't actually made any deep (except maybe one or two) profound friendships in my twenties (I turn 27 this weekend). I've been really frustrated with how hard it apparently is, forming deep connections with others. It's been source of a lot of frustration and psychological suffering - which I'm over now. It may sound strange, but I am mostly attracted to masculine energy when it comes to platonic friendships (dudes are just simpler than women, in my personal experience), and just seemed to become impossible after puberty due to sexual tension, agendas and society's false claim that you cannot be friends with the gender you're sexually attracted to.

 

Well...

Pornography certainly was a "true friend" of mine. It was always there when I needed wanted it!

 

To be honest, this is an amazing question that needs dire attention: How is it possible that people are gathering together (for lunch or whatever) and they just stay checking at their phones all the time?

I mean, sometimes is nice to check stuff (and to keep anxiety away by distracting yourself), but humans are not meant to spend 10 hours holding a smartphone or cruising the internet with no aim whatsoever. I think it has to do with how comfortable one is with him/her self.

@SheMonk Congrats for reaching 27 years this weekend, hope you have a great day!!!

 

Thank you very much!

 

Our times are strange. We have great opportunity to meet a lot of wonderful people. Indirectly globalization could be help us. You know what i mean; social media, internet, fast travel to other places in the world. But, there is differently.

We meet a lot of people nowadays. So can not create true bond with every person who we met. It is impossible. On the other hand we want get instant success. Success must be achive NOW ( in relationship, finance, health etc). So how an averege person ( for example me) can perform all of expectations others? It's impossible. So what other people do when expectations are not perform? They try to find next person. Again and again.

I accept this situation.I can not change others. Even if i want. Many people think that women and men are bad. No. We are not evil. System is.

Peace.

 

I want to reconnect with my best friend from childhood but I'm afraid that after 16 years of no contact he will ignore me or hate me. We had a clash of personalities, but I've never found someone that has so many common interests with me. And we would talk about our future lives, wives, dream careers. The people I meet these days only discuss politics, school, work, food or traveling and nothing else. Where have all the dreamers went? And I cannot even find car guys my age (28).

 

I look at it this way , finding people who are genuine, trustworthy, positive, and who are able to connect with you on a deeper level etc. etc. are like finding diamonds... very much so possible and they are out there but not as easy to find . I think people in general should consider listening to their intuition before "finding" people to connect with ... once you do that, I believe people will find you .

 

I got true friends.
Whenever I tell them secrets, they know how to keep it.
We insult each other on a daily basis. But, we support each other during difficult times.
Whenever we're together, smartphones are not allowed. We are connected.

 

So you are looking for me.

To be honest...

Reading your post made me feel that you expect more from friendship than giving to it. Stop expecting from others and you will find true friends.

I did not meant to hurt u.