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Is this pied!!!

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Tobirueben, Nov 6, 2017.

  1. Tobirueben

    Tobirueben Fapstronaut

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    Pardon my grammar. English is not my native language
    I have been using I was exposed to sex very early by my cousin I think I was around 8 or 9, not quite sure and I started masturbating I think at the age of 13, and porn at the age of 18. I had my first sex when I was 19. To cut the story short. I never problem having sex with this girl I lost my virginity to. Until I started dating this girl who was lesbian but was trying to quit, first sex went well with but after that I started having problem with erection. I get hard when we make out but sometimes my erection just go away when ever I try to penetrate or sometimes I penetrate but after a minute or two it goes flaccid and does come up again. This became an issue, I went back to the girl I lost my virginity to and I was able to have a meaningful sex with her so I broke up with the other girl thinking the problem wasn't from me. So two years ago, this became a real issues because almost every I try to have sex with, I just can't hold the erection till I penetrate it always go down, and this even made me to lose confidence in myself as I was scared of embarrassing my self. Recently I got this new girl. Anytime we try to have sex I have to penetrate early so as not to lose my erection and that has been working for me but I don't want it to be like that. I don't wanna have to rush to get inside. So I think I have pied. This is my day 9 of no pmo, and I really hope this fix my issue
    Again sorry about the grammar
     
  2. 57yrold

    57yrold Fapstronaut

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    Could be PIED, or maybe performance anxiety.

    The test is:

    Can you get a solid erection to porn, but not with a real person?

    If yes, you have PIED. If you can't get an erection to either, may be a medical problem, or PA.

    9 days of no PMO is GREAT! Good start! Stay with it and you should eventually see improvement.
     
  3. Tobirueben

    Tobirueben Fapstronaut

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    I can get an erection with both, with porn it stays hard but with a real girl it's kinda go soft when I'm about to penetrate so what I do is penetrate real quick and most times its stays till I ejaculate but if I don't penetrate quick it just goes limp
     
  4. Sounds like PIED. Reboot!
     
  5. Tobirueben

    Tobirueben Fapstronaut

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    Im Already In Reboot.This is my 12 Day
     
  6. Hope your reboot is going well. I had the same problem with my wife. I could get hard to porn, but not with her. She could go down on me and I could not get a hard on or keep one if I had one. Mid-sex, I would just lose a hard on even if we were in full motion.

    What helped me identify my problem as PIED was realizing what was asking myself: "When I am with my wife, what am I thinking about?"

    I realized that if I fantasized and kept it going on in my head, I could stay hard. If I concentrated on my wife and didn't make stuff up, I would lose my erection. That was pretty devastating to learn about myself, but what was also the key to me working on getting into recovery. Make sure you are honest with yourself about this. It might be ugly, but it might also show you the way.
     

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