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Is this me or not

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Arthes, Jan 3, 2019.

  1. Jan 3, 2019 #1
    Arthes

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    So I'm not sure that my behaviour is mine I mean when I'm having a sexual act with my gf and when she giving me oral sex I really like to make it rough and I'm not sure if I like it because it is who I am or because of porn I am not sure if rough sex is mine. Hope you understand me
     
    Arthes, Jan 3, 2019
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  2. Jan 3, 2019 #2
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    Stay away from all things porn for 90 days, then see how you feel.
    Also, is this something she likes as well?
    Discuss it with her openly.
     
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  3. Jan 3, 2019 #3
    Arthes

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    I'm on day 25 without p m o and going to continue without p and m for as long as 90 days for sure.
    The thing is we have talked about it many times she says she is happy that I'm happy and she is asking for not too rough and I'm not forcing her but I do want it more rough.
    Also I like trying new things with sex and she likes the same
     
    Arthes, Jan 3, 2019
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  4. Jan 3, 2019 #4
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    Being playful and fun with each other is great. Don't lose that. But also make sure you are doing things you both enjoy. Make sure you don't think of her or use her as a play toy.
    Use this time also to get closer intimately, grow that part of your relationship.
    After the 90 days your mind should have settled back down to where it should be.
     
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  5. Jan 3, 2019 #5
    Arthes

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    Well it's not that I see her as my play toy but I like trying all kind of stuff and sometimes I like to act as if she or I doing these kind of acts.
    And I'm sorry now I see I wasn't so clear about it but when I sayed I like trying new things and she like the same I meant she like casual and safe
     
    Arthes, Jan 3, 2019
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  6. Jan 3, 2019 #6
    Rick Seng

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    haha its good right? you atleast trying out new things with your gf, than trying to find a new porn genre?
    And I think rough sex is good till the point u "both" love it.
     
    Rick Seng, Jan 3, 2019
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  7. Jan 3, 2019 #7
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    Oh, ok understood.
     
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  8. Jan 3, 2019 #8
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    <triggers>

    I think, you are curious. It may come from Porn.

    So you have 2 options:

    1. You will let it go and ignore the idea.

    or

    2. You will have a talk about it and consider trying it.

    //

    Now, the question is:

    A. Do you like it rough or do you like the idea?
    B. Will your GF agree to try?

    //

    I had this several years ago. My GF was also curious.

    The story short: "She did not like it" + she was teasing me at occasion that I have almost "drowned her".

    </triggers>
     
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  9. Feb 23, 2019 #9
    Arthes

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    what is the difference ?

    she do not like it too rough. its like that during oral i need to "control" myself
     
    Arthes, Feb 23, 2019
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