is sexual thoughts about my girlfriend bad ?

You can't. And I don't think you need to to love her.

 

Sorry for not being clear.

I'm confident there are different degrees of objectification. Of course you won't want to objectify your girlfriend like you did with porn actresses. But I think that a little bit of objectification is always involved and that it's perfectly normal. Like, you become attracted by her body or certain parts of her body for a second, not by her full holy trinity of body, mind and soul. And of course you will have sexual thoughts about her now and then. Playing with expectations and raising fantasies plays a huge role for sexual arousal, and I don't see why that should completely stop outside of the bed.

That's my perception at least. But it could be different for me, and I could be plain wrong as well.

 

is sexual thoughts about my girlfriend bad ?
What? No of course not. If you didn't find each other sexually attractive then you wouldn't have a relationship right? If you think all the time about how beautiful your girlfriend is, how much you would like to make love to her, how great you feel when you are with her. That is all normal behaviour in my book.

 

Well I can't judge whether you think an abnormal amount of the time about sex with her. All I can say is, if you feel not comfortable you can change it. Propose a week without sex just to try. Only kissing and cuddling. And see if that brings you more happy feelings.

 

And she is up for that? 90 days is a lot.

 

Well ok then. Good luck I would say! Keep us posted.

 

If you are too much attracted towards girl then sexual thoughts are natural. make sure it's not lust..lol

 

I don't think it's bad. If she is hot than why not? But if the sexual thoughts are unnatural than that's a bad thing and you should try and change the thought pattern. If you sexual thoughts consists of thinking about kissing, hugging, and giving your girlfriend missionary sex lol than it's fine.

 

Ok I'm a new here so if I'm out of line please tell me, but I think it's completely healthy to fantasize about your partner. There's attraction there so of course you're going to think about them that way. What you need to do is make so that doesn't become the only focus on the relationship. That is when in my opinion it would be unhealthy or bad.

 

I think you have a valid question here, It's healthy to think sexually about your girlfriend but I think in a healthy ways. I would say that if the fantasies is something that you think she would enjoy in real life then it's healthy and what's even healthier is to have those emotions and fantasies shared with her.

 

I second this post. Any who suppose this motion?

 

Its bad if you have any sexual thoughts other than your girlfriend. Yes, lust or pervertness should not be there.

 

It's natural to think of others, what you shouldn't do is feed those fantasies or add to them (like acting them out). You have to work to fight those thoughts, thats where the whole idea of temptation comes from. Lust would be that's all you want. if if thats all you want then yeah, thats bad.