Is porn a gateway to escorts?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Veritech, Jul 13, 2018.

  1. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    Part of the debate to continue to prohibit recreational marijuana use is that it is a gateway drug to harder and more illicit drugs.

    I tend to feel that porn is a gateway to prostitutes.

    When I watch, I have a feeling of envy how that dude can gat laid so easily. He has a woman partaking in every sexual whim. All I need to do is phone an escort service, pay lots of money and I too can be that dude.

    I knock on a hotel door. I am greeted by a sexy woman in bra and panties. I leave an envelope on the table. I take a shower. This woman is waiting on the bed for me. She will remove her clothing, have me drop my towel, suck my dick, let me suck on her tits and eat her pussy. She will then put a condom on me and let me fuck her in any position of my choosing. I can cum inside her pussy or on her body.

    I do not even have to apply myself beforehand. Just like the porn movie.

    Not only am a I putting my self-esteem and libido on the line, now I am ruining myself financially and putting my health at serious risk.
     
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  2. GaryMayor

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    Nice scenario, dude but you know... You can experience all of that without paying a single dollar and what is more important without terrible feeling after that! You deserve nice lady you will love and have passionate sex with - much, much better than you can even imagine. You just need to choose wisely and repeat your choices every day.

    Please imagine how you would feel after that situation, every time when you are considering escort... Think about such loneliness and feeling of empty - sex with an escort is always a little happiness buy on credit, with a terrible interest rate.
     
  3. RndyBm

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    Don't do it dude. Even thinking this way is on the road to failure. We are better than that. Keep strong! Although yes, you are absolutely right. It is like the scenario you mentioned. However, all of us as human beings have been given this wonderful gift called Free Will. She in the scenario, could alternatively just walk out of the hotel room with the envelope you left whilst you are taking a shower and you will come back out to an empty room with just your penis in your hand. Because that could happen too. Think about it that way!
     
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  4. Fishn1

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    Marijuana can be a gateway to harder drugs just as porn can be to soliciting prostitutes or escorts, but from what I've read here on these forums, "upgrading" to escorts has the same aftereffects of constant porn use, a user high and then a complete letdown afterwards with depression, chaser effects, and the feeling of a hopeless addiction. I thought it might be cool too when I fantasized about it, the excitement and rush, but what do you have again when your done - you're not one step closer to loving yourself or able to deal with people in a healthy way. My recommendation and I'm doing my best to follow this myself is to come back here every day and read what other people have experienced, it's the reason we're all here and maybe some common sense will kick in and rewire your brain. That's what I'm hoping for anyway. Don't test the waters, you will sooner or later find yourself back here again because you know you have to be. We may or may not fail again and again, but if we keep this as a base, chances are much higher we will kick this thing. Admit you have an addiction to this high and stay here.
     
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  5. Ten Bundy said Porn is a gateway to hardcore and more inhumane porn and that is a gateway to inhumane acts. So yeah..........
     
  6. Lanius

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    Porn is absolutely a gateway to escorts. Both are taboo and elicit the same responses. They wont fulfill you emotionally, and will make your life worse no matter what.
     
  7. The illusion of "fast n easy" sex is what both sell: but never really can give you.... actually because sex is simply not fast n easy; not even a ONS
     
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  8. live life trying

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    Well Now,
    Hidyhow cowboys,

    First off: reactional use of cannabis and uncontrolled THC levels combined with a competitive market can lead to overconsumption

    These women however are most of the time professionals, wheter they work in a brothel or behind a window (some work out of free will, most out of economical need, often forced into prostitution, and also consider the fact of sextrafficking)

    They will sell you an idea, and you are the customer. If you’re willing to live and accept this whole truth, with respect for the women, I don’t see a problem.

    Spoiler warning: Most of the time it’s not how you picture it, and you will feel ripped of, exit desillusioned..

    Just fight the power!
     
  9. live life trying

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    Aaaamen!

    mm
     
  10. Jackb97

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    It depends on how you feel about escorts. Its just like getting a massage really. I think its less damaging than porn but more expensive.
    People on here act like you will die if get one.
     
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  11. MasterRoshi

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    I would say it’s a gateway to frivolous sexual experiences. If you have money it might manifest in massage parlors or prostitution, if you’re broke (like me) it manifests in a straight person having gay sex because it’s super easy to do, and free...

    So gateway drug? Ummm I would say yes the disease is progressive and eventually playboy centerfolds won’t satisfy the beast.
     
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  12. superninjared

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    Watching porn is most definitely worse than having sex with an escort. At least when you are with an escort its very close to the real thing. The only difference is it’s a paid service and there is little emotional connection. But still better than fapping yourself off in your cave alone while looking at a screen.

    Unfortunately I still think escorts are necessary for some people. If you have severe anxiety for example then the likelihood that you will get into a sexual situation in the short term is very unlikely. Even if you did wait for things to happen naturally and when you least expect it. You could STILL miss that opportunity to meet someone because you are in your head. Everyone who has anxiety will understand this.

    So your only options are to keep waiting and work on your self and anxiety. This can take months, years, a lifetime. We are very impatient these days who wants to wait that long? So then you think about porn again but that’s not an option you don’t want to relapse...

    So the thought of just paying for an escort becomes very appealing. It’s not porn and you are with a real girl. Closest most people will get to having a girlfriend experience quickly, without having to do all of this self help, rebooting and personal development.
     
  13. RndyBm

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    I'm sorry but how low does one's self esteem and self-worth have to be to even think this way. "the likelihood that you will get into a sexual situation in the short term is very unlikely". That's down to the person's thought not fact. We all have the power to change what state we are in. No one can do it for us. Its a matter of changing your perspective. Easier said than done I know, but I just despair at the fact when people say "oh, i'm never gonna get laid". With that attitude no you're not. Instead think you might actually get laid one day and its gonna be a brilliant experience (probably not the first time lol) but this negative thinking is what feeds more negative and therefore questionable actions. End of the day, just as @live life trying stated, the people that are choosing to be escorts or prozzies are doing so for their own reasons, and ultimately you are just another customer to them. Why would you stoop so slow just to "experience something" that you will get eventually with the best person if your mindset changed? I don't get it. If one does go ahead with it, in the long run it might have a negative impact on you just as porn does. If you are the lucky sort that hasn't been affected, well then that's lucky for you. But the fact there's no connection, almost "robotic" and the whole theme is fuelled by pornography and that "fantasy world". To me, they just feed one another.

    I don't expect people to agree with me, I am just airing my opinions.
     
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  14. superninjared

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    Because if it was that easy for everyone to get laid, then this forum would not be as active. Look at how many people are struggling with relationships and porn addiction. Not everybody has a high enough tolerance to wait it out and see what life brings to them. Sometimes you have no choice but to take action and step outside of your comfort zone. The stress of going for such a long period of time without knowing the touch of someone else can literally make you sick. And if you have really bad anxiety as well then its significantly worse. It will literally mess you up. Many people go into deep depression because they don't think it will ever happen. Some even go as far as taking their own life because the shame and embarrassment is too much to bare. They just give up.

    So i don't see a problem with keeping all the options open on the table. Not everybody will agree with it, but if an escort is what it takes for someone to maintain some sanity. Then its better than withdrawing from the world and letting the anxiety and depression break you until you have lost yourself.

    "how low does one's self esteem and self-worth have to be to even think this way"

    I think you will find that a lot of people are struggling with this on here. You might have a decent amount of confidence but i guarantee that there are dozens of people on here who do not. Having no significant other, no job, PIED, debt etc... All of this causes stress. So you cant judge them for being different, the same rules do not apply. I used to know someone she was over 40 years old and still a virgin. She wanted to loose her virginity but she did not know how to. Going for such a long period of time without anything happening really messes up your head. I tried telling her about personal development and improving her confidence etc... But when you are feeling that damaged its not easy to hear. And its not easy to change.

    I bet if you gave people a choice on here to go a lifetime without ever knowing what its like to have the touch of someone. Or to have a escort for one night they would choose the latter. We only get one life what have you got to loose? Im not saying that we should all use escorts not at all. Im just saying that its a good way to release some tensions and as others have said its a ego boost. Too many people have zero confidence already we need everything we can get to get us back on track. The ideal way would of course be to meet people in real life. But anxiety is powerful and not everyone can overcome it easily so having a helping hand is not a bad thing in my opinion.
     
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  15. RndyBm

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    Point taken. My friend lost his life based on the fact of anxiety and mental health problems. And he had what most people would call "everything on track", a growing career, popular, on the road to getting married. That was a confident guy. So someone on the flip side. Well damn that would be ten time as bad. So I can see where you're coming from. I suppose its not easy to change your mindset when its all one has known. I didn't mean to come across as not compassionate, or whatever. It just sparked a fuse with me when I read your reply that's all lol.
     
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  16. anthony stark

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    yeah man, been there done that, i'm 21 but i've been with prostitutes from here to amsterdam , i mean, amsterdam wasn't a big deal you know? "when in rome" but when you are in your home town is a whole different story, amsterdam is a special thing, girls get tested weekly they have guides and procedures they have syndicates ,fixed prices, everything , the overall word to describe it would be SAFE but here you don't know shit, i remember leaving and wondering for a week if i could have gotten an std like "i used a condom but maybe it broke maybe i cut myself shaving and i got it through there maybe she'll show up in 9 months demanding child support" and on and on , and the worst part is you just learn to accept it like "ok living with an std ain't no big deal , was bound to get one eventually y'know" even if you don't catch nothing it still is really dangerous i remember my first time with an escort i texted a friend and be like" i'm at this address if i don't talk to you in one hour call the police".
    porn is horrible because you see these beautiful women and you're like "i could never get something like that", maybe not in the whole beauty area maybe you just have a different taste , maybe you really really like redheads or overweight girls or asians or black girls or girls with short hair ( that's kind of my kink fyi) and in the world of escorts they are willing to be with you , you get excited and you look at her pics, see where she lives ,how much she charges and then you read the "share your experience comments" which isn't daunting till you realize she has 200+ comments.
     

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