Is it a case of Porn / Death Grip?

Hi forum members,

I have recently started seeing someone new and I feel we really hit it off. We've met a number of times now.. you know... the usual date stuff and what not before he stayed back at my place one night after a few drinks. We kissed a bit and moved on to oral and he reciprocated but eventually gave up claiming "I've had too much to drink". I was like.. yea, I get it that's understandable so didn't think much else of it.

A week or so pass by and we meet up a couple more times and the next time I stay at his place. The guy is quite shy and has taken quite a while to start opening up to me.. but it just naturally seems he isn't overly keen on wanting to engage in any sexual activities despite him saying how attractive he finds me and despite him having an erection which he claims is caused because I am there.

My main point here is, we did a similar thing (minus the alcohol) this time and I was more than happy with what I was doing and was enjoying myself but it did go on for quite some time and he eventually just said "Look... I'm sorry.. I don't think I'm going to be able to finish". I was like "Oh yea, how come?" He went on to say (and he was quite embarrassed bless him) that hasn't been able to finish with either oral or penetrative sex for quite some time and he can only really get himself off when he masturbates.

It initially made me feel bad as if perhaps I was part of the problem but searching the internet it seems many guys are the same way. For context, I'm a guy also- not that that matters to this story really. But yea, I really do like the guy and have quite strong feelings for him (unlike i've had for people in the past) and want to somehow support him on this and see if there's something that could work for him? He apologised claiming he's so awkward and sorry for ruining the night and stuff.... but I honestly didn't care about that I cared more about how he felt having to feel that way. He said, despite this, he still would like to see me again.

So NoFap members... any advice.. what would you suggest I say to him about it... as I genuinely do care for it.. Took guts to say it in the first place.