Is he a sex addict?

I agree. I'm an old dog but when I was in my early 20's my girlfriend and I had sex almost every night, sometimes even during her period. (She used to say "A little ketchup on the hot dog is O.K.") Yes, I was into porn but it consisted entirely of a Penthouse magazine once a month. I agree that a high sex drive does not equal sex addiction.

 

Sex addiction occurs when a person uses sex to medicate themselves from difficult emotions. Instead of dealing with stress, boredom, feeling lonely, angry etc by reaching out to others or using coping skills such as journalling, exercising etc they use sexual highs as an escape. Porn raises the hedonistic setpoint so many men want porn more than normal sex making it look like they have a high libido.

 

This is an accurate explanation in my opinion.
I was trying to quit M, but usually would slip up at least once a month when she was unavailable.
I would get moody other times because i knew we could have it and i wanted it but she wasnt in the mood. She usually would make sure we did it at least once a week, but i wanted it more because it was my drug.

Now i could still do it every day probably, but I don’t get angry if she isn’t in the mood.
I think she is still adapting to my changed outlook.
She gets defensive when she says no.
I have to tell her it’s ok and im not mad. I was just asking if she was interested. I try to have a casual tone.