Is being a prude a bad thing?

I remember when I made a thread about how much I hated this society and how perverted and oversexualized it is. I just realized now that I'm a prude. I never understood what that word meant, but when I looked up the definition, I realized that the definition summed me up perfectly.

So in case your wondering, a prude is someone who gets shocked at extreme material very easily, especially if it's sexual. Even though I don't mind violence very much, I always find myself uncomfortable every time whenever I encounter a sex scene.

I always stay away from movies and TV shows that have sex scenes. But since I tend to read the more mature books, I would sometimes encounter a sex scene and the first thought that would come up in my mind would be, "why?"

I mean, I could understand why an author would decide to include a scene that involves getting down and dirty. I can tolerate sex scenes in books as long as there's actually a reason for two characters to have sex and it's vague, not overly explicit as hell.

Despite this though, I feel like this society praises sex WAY too much, not only objectifying women but also glorifying male dominance as well. I feel like sex is way too overrated. This society tries to get you to think that in order to be happy, you have to be rich as hell, have sex with lots of smoking hot women, etc. In reality though, this is just a big load of BS.

In order to be happy, you simply have to be present in the moment. If you are ruminating about your past, wishing that all those unpleasant memories never happened, then you are depressed. If you are ruminating about the future, anxious about your fate even though it hasn't happened yet, then you are anxious.

To become present in the moment, you must learn to breathe. It's true that breathing is an involuntary process, but the problem is, when you are taking very shallow breaths all the time, then chances are, you are probably stuck in your mind.

To tackle this problem, the best way is to watch your breathing. Take big, deep breaths and be aware of your breathing. Think about what your doing and what's going on around you.

If you struggle with intrusive thoughts, realize that those are just thoughts, they come and go on their own, just like clouds in the sky. Don't try to force those thoughts out of your head, they would only come back but in full force. The more you try to fight your thoughts, the more powerful they become.

Anyways, back to the topic, so I'm wondering, is being a prude a bad thing? Is it a bad thing to be easily shocked by violent or sexual content in books, movies, TV shows, etc.?

I've been wondering if this prudish behaviour of mine is another problem of mine or simply just who I am. I would like to know what you guys and gals think.

-Captain Rex

 

Some of your points I agree with, but others, I don't. For example:

This, I understand. As someone looking to stay clean, I prefer to avoid these. Not all the time, though since some sex scenes in certain media don't show much at all.

This, I don't get. If the sex scene was something mature and natural and not something out of a porno, then I don't see why anyone would have a problem with that. Unless you're a prude, as you described.

Ah, as am I, for the most part. Moving along.

Agreed with the "have sex with lots of women" part. That's a loser in my eyes. Although I don't agree with the "glorifying male dominance" part. As far as I've noticed, it's been either demonizing masculinity or in other areas, a good balance of celebrating femininity and masculinity.

I suppose it depends. I can't see how someone could, say, be happily married to someone who is opposed to and easily disturbed by nudity and sex, unless they're a prude as well. It'd be worse if you thought you were superior to others that aren't prudes, however, but since you've shown no evidence of that, I won't assume.

But ultimately, how prudish are you, exactly? You're uncomfortable watching other people have sex, but what about yourself? What about when you start going out with someone? (Assuming you have any desire to do this at all) What are you going to do when your partner wants to have sex with you?

I say if you are capable of not being disturbed by sex if you're in a relationship (assuming you wish to be in one someday) and instead, just dislike seeing other people do it, then you're fine. If you aren't capable, to me, that's a problem that needs fixing.

 

I'm not a prude but now prudish values make way more sense. I used to look at jews, mormons, traditional muslims, biblical christians and all these funny little ethnicities who don't party or bang out of wedlock as backwards but when you see us suffering the consequences of debauchery then you see them with their strong communites and families then it becomes kind of stupid to argue against prudishness.